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I have a situation where I have a childhood friend who still seems interested in being my friend but I don't have the heart to tell him I don't like him, I just try to ignore him as much as possible. It's kinda weird cause we don't have direct tensions between us and I wouldn't say it was "slowly" but I just realized one day he isn't a good person. Plus, we had already drifted apart after a point, as things happen like when I went off to college, but suddenly he kept trying to get in touch with me and it was like man I don't know felt like we moved on with our lives at that point.

In hindsight the signs were always there, but I think as a kid I was more tolerant of some of his concerning behaviors. I guess I just hoped he'd grow out of them. The thing that really put me off was that he posted some extremely vulgar rant about a rude driver or something like that on FB. Then another friend of mine, who was a mutual but didn't really know the disliked friend that much, commented sternly but politely more or less "dude do you realize how many people can see this and how badly you come off?". The shitty friend doubled down and flipped at him, just saying more vile shit. This wasn't at my direction or anything and I didn't know what was going on but the good friend told me about it and when I saw it that was a big "what the fuck is wrong with this kid" moment.

And then he unsurprisingly went down the white supremacist rabbithole around 2016. I say unsurprisingly because he was always pretty racist but beyond like just the casual prejudices a (sadly) large amount of people can have, it was apparent he was turning into the type of person who just needed something to be angry at all the time. Dude still acts like he's 15 basically, can't figure out that maybe his own actions are the reason he's unhappy with his life, just blames everyone else. And a lot of those kind of little behaviors that are childish and off-putting, like swears every sentence, still calls stuff "gay" and "r-word" all the time, etc.