LogFAQs > #950300095

Backstory: I live with 2 brothers, both younger. We're all in our mid to late 20s, and I cook for everyone every day. One brother cleans up after the meal and the other goes to school so we don't really ask him to do anything.

I've been cleaning the whole apartment lately and asked my brother who isn't in school if he can help. He agreed. Then nothing. I keep cleaning the apartment, and asked him 2 more times. Still nothing. It's getting to the point where I feel used and taken advantage of, because he knows I'm going to keep cleaning anyway. We used to do this **** to our dad growing up, where we would do anything to get out of chores and basically just never do them even when he asked, and he's treating me the same way.

So if I cook for my brother who goes to school, but don't cook for that brother, because he didn't do what he said he would, would that make me an a******? Is there a better way of handling it?

It's a lose lose for me because either I make peace with the fact that I'm going to be the only one cleaning and then I have to do it all myself, or I ask my brother to help and now it's a big argument/hassle to get him to help anyway, and now I look like an a****** when I get mad at him for not helping.

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