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MedeaLysistrata posted...

Uh... I know from browsing here that some people want many notches on their belt as a goal. I guess if that's your goal it's fine, but after taking that journey, why did you stop and settle at access to women and not just a wife?

I was engaged twice. The first didn't work out because I thought being engaged meant that we were equals. I once again became too nice, started putting her needs above my own, and she eventually just lost attraction got bored of me.

I'm engaged currently, and I am living and dying by the concept of Hypergamy, so it's going all right. However, I long for a time when I'll no longer have to always portray myself as superior. I'd like to be on equal ground at some point, but every time I've tried its caused great turmoil and almost led to a demise in the relationship. Things like trying to talk about my feelings, or wanting to open up about my past trauma, being sad/depressed, or when I lost my job due to Covids - these things were portrayed as weakness.

Men who are successful with women do NOT open up about their feelings, because they rightfully don't trust women to be able to handle them - women tend to negatively judge men for whatever it is they decide to share. This is why you always hear women complain that "men don't talk about their feelings" because the ones that do get friendzoned. The ones that don't are the ones women are attracted to - its an allure of mystery and strength.

If you open up to your girlfriend and start talking about how sad you are, or how hopeless you feel her instincts are going to kick in, and she's going to subconsciously start doubting you as a long term mate. It is what it is.

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