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Jessie Marrs of Pacific Gynecology Specialists did mine after another doctor at the same group wouldn't. The doctor who wouldn't was happy to recommend sight unseen vasectomy appointments and did endorse me as "definitely not crazy." Dr. Marrs was perfectly adequate, though I only spoke with her three times (before, day-of and one follow-up), so I don't know much about her ethics beyond that.

Don't let anyone tell you the tubal ligation itself is major surgery. It has a major effect, but the procedure is very minor and the chance of side-effects nearly zero.

I was 25 and had to lie a little about how long I'd been married to get it, so they're unlikely to do it for a 21 year-old (they made a big deal about how young I was). You may have better luck saying you want it done for dysmorphia than saying you want it done because you have the right to not. There are lots more gender clinics that will give you a recommendation than gynecologists, unfortunately.

(I never had trouble with hormonal birth control other than it didn't stop the cystic issues it was supposed to, so I spent a year or two on BC after getting my tubes tied, too. I got my tubes tied for reasons that include, but go beyond, not wanting kids, so hit me up if you've got questions.)

Heads up: The doctors at Swedish are ghouls, though. After signing eighty forms releasing their liability for everything from minor skin tears of IV needles to sudden death a week after, they waited until I was in the operating room and prepped before saying "Also, we need a cath [for a sub-30 minute procedure you already emptied your bladder twice for]." It wasn't on any of the forms. I said "I do not consent to this, please give me a waiver for any ruptures or infections during surgery" and one of the nurses literally shrugged and said "It's hard to consent when you're asleep." Their shitty catheterization job is still causing me problems six years later. Since partial urinary incontinence was one of the things I wanted to avoid by never giving birth, I have to honestly say that I would reevaluate the procedure if I knew what I know now.

I'd almost certainly totally still do it though; dysmorphia is slightly less; barebacking is phenomenal; and all the end-of-late-capitalism dystopia feature a eunuch elite, so I'm ahead of the game.

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