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The time you have now won't come again. You only get to be young, free, and healthy once. Right now--or in a couple of years from now depending on where you live and exactly how old you are--is the time to figure out what you want in life. Adult life is sort of laid out like this: high school -> college or trade school -> career -> additional training if you need it. If you skip out on getting a degree in something you want and can use to start a career, it's much harder being a non-traditional student than you might think. If you need a college or trade school to follow the path you want for yourself, head straight for it. People who put it off tend to fall right off the wagon and don't get back on.

Get a part time job if you can to build experience. Keep working through college or trade school if you can, but prioritize your education and professional development. Don't compare yourself to other people. If your friend from chemistry can work three part time jobs and take a full load of credits, good for him. If you can't, that's fine. You do what you need to do to succeed and build a future for yourself. If you fail at something, that only means something needs to change. It absolutely doesn't mean you are a failure.

Don't ever let other people control or take advantage of you. You, LumaRosalina, deserve to be happy and free and live your own life. I hope you have a family that is good to you, but if you don't, make sure you graduate from high school with a complete enough set of life skills that you can stand on your own two feet without help. Don't let your parents decide your life path. Watch out for abusive people. There are things that can be wrong with people--like narcissistic personality disorder or psychopathy--that can create an incredible environment for abuse if they have wormed themselves into your life and target you. It's not their fault that they are like that, but it isn't your fault either, or your responsibility.

That last thing is a rare problem, but I've seen it happen three times in my life, and my life would have been so much happier if someone had bothered to warn me that dangerous people can come in some unusual packaging.