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| Topic | Is a "good guy" the same as a "nice guy"? |
| Anteaterking 12/25/19 11:29:29 PM #76: | Skipping over this interim conversation that's happened and going back to what @Vol2tex originally said: I think the framing problem with the "Is it okay for to be disappointed when a girl doesn't appreciate the nice things you did?" question is that though it doesn't have to be this way, most of the time the people who would get hung up over a specific woman not appreciating what they do is actually just fooling themselves into thinking that it's not tied up in romantic stuff. If I hold open the door for someone and they don't say thank you, I don't really care because it takes zero effort. If I brought in some baked goods for my office and people ate them but no one thanked me or acknowledged it, sure I would be upset/disappointed. That doesn't mean it wasn't a nice thing for me to bring them in. But if I do something nice for a female friend that I wouldn't do for a male friend and they don't appreciate it and I get upset (or even if I would do it for a male friend, but get more upset about it than if that person didn't appreciate it) there's something more going on than me just being nice. --- ... Copied to Clipboard! |
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