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Topic	My roomate is gay, so has female friends. One of them knocked on my door and...
OpenlyGator 11/26/19 6:33:00 AM #19:	joe40001 posted... AwesomeToTheMAX posted... It wasn't a tease. You, for some reason, decided to go to the gas station to get hard lemonade instead of rolling with it. That's all on you. Why the fuck would you go to get lemonade and chips if they're going out to dinner and then taking shots. You were the one that came off as uninterested, not them. I said I'd be right back, I wanted to just not be leaching off their stuff if I was drinking with them. I get where you're coming from, but I'm afraid you made a fatal mistake in this common scenario. At least common for extroverted people. From what you described, it sounds like the Party Boat sent you a free pass that was only valid if you jumped on RIGHT THEN...and you said "gimme 15 minutes, I'll be right back". Unfortunately, that was the wrong answer if you wanted to go. You might not realize that because you seem a bit introverted (which is not a bad thing). Usually when a bunch of outgoing social drinkers want to head out and party...they're not going to hit the pause button if it stands between them and their booze. If you want to tag along, you have to be ready to spontaneously move out as soon as THEY'RE ready. That's how it typically works... I know because I dated my fair share of frat boys and hung out with party girls who loved to drink. It doesn't matter if you're best friends or they're dating you. It doesn't matter if you're smoking hot...they will still ditch you if you're slowing them down. Because the prospect of having fun and getting buzzed SOONER is more attractive to a group of people who want to do it pronto. One of my past friends was a prime example. She looked like a photoshopped supermodel with supreme genes. However, her preparation needs were high maintenance and she sucked at doing anything spontaneously on the fly. Keep in mind this chick was gorgeous and had a great personality. She still got ditched because nobody wanted to wait for her to put on makeup and pick out a sexy outfit. They wanted to leave NOW. After dating party guys for so long, I just learned to pack an regular-sized emergency backpack full of things I could need for a spontaneous fun time out and threw it in my trunk whenever we were going to be hanging out with anybody known for random changes in plans. One of the reasons being an extrovert is attractive when it comes to social outings is because it often means the person is also up for changing those plans if something better comes along. And if you're someone new to the group and say no, well....live and learn. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png <cite>OpenlyGator posted [p:930716616] in My roomate... [t:78200003]...</cite> <quote>joe40001 posted...</cite> <quote>AwesomeToTheMAX posted...</cite> <quote>It wasn't a tease. You, for some reason, decided to go to the gas station to get hard lemonade instead of rolling with it. That's all on you. Why the fuck would you go to get lemonade and chips if they're going out to dinner and then taking shots. You were the one that came off as uninterested, not them. </quote> I said I'd be right back, I wanted to just not be leaching off their stuff if I was drinking with them.</quote> I get where you're coming from, but I'm afraid you made a fatal mistake in this common scenario. At least common for extroverted people. From what you described, it sounds like the Party Boat sent you a free pass that was only valid if you jumped on RIGHT THEN...and you said "gimme 15 minutes, I'll be right back". Unfortunately, that was the wrong answer if you wanted to go. You might not realize that because you seem a bit introverted (which is not a bad thing). Usually when a bunch of outgoing social drinkers want to head out and party...they're not going to hit the pause button if it stands between them and their booze. If you want to tag along, you have to be ready to spontaneously move out as soon as THEY'RE ready. That's how it typically works... I know because I dated my fair share of frat boys and hung out with party girls who loved to drink. It doesn't matter if you're best friends or they're dating you. It doesn't matter if you're smoking hot...they will still ditch you if you're slowing them down. Because the prospect of having fun and getting buzzed SOONER is more attractive to a group of people who want to do it pronto. One of my past friends was a prime example. She looked like a photoshopped supermodel with supreme genes. However, her preparation needs were high maintenance and she sucked at doing anything spontaneously on the fly. Keep in mind this chick was gorgeous and had a great personality. She still got ditched because nobody wanted to wait for her to put on makeup and pick out a sexy outfit. They wanted to leave NOW. After dating party guys for so long, I just learned to pack an regular-sized emergency backpack full of things I could need for a spontaneous fun time out and threw it in my trunk whenever we were going to be hanging out with anybody known for random changes in plans. One of the reasons being an extrovert is attractive when it comes to social outings is because it often means the person is also up for changing those plans if something better comes along. And if you're someone new to the group and say no, well....live and learn. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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