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| Topic | Man: Men arent in relationships to play step daddy and take care of your kids... |
| ClockworkHare 11/21/19 8:48:46 AM #78: | Dating a single mom is fine. Not all of them are stereotypical nuts. But there's been a song & dance to dating single parents for decades too... BOTH the new boyfriend AND the single mom have their jobs to do in order to make it work. Making the arrangement a success is not (and should not) be exclusively on the new man to do. If stepping up to support the kids is expected to eventually be part of the new boyfriend's job, keeping that man interested and making the kids behave is the single mom's job. The latter means giving the man an incentive to stick around and telling the kids to knock their bullshit off. And if he's going to be expected to pay up like a dad, then he needs to eventually be given some authority like a dad too. If the single mom is already dumping expenses on the new boyfriend, she allows the kids to treat him like shit, and she gatekeeps intimacy behind taking care of her kids first...she does NOT seriously want to keep a boyfriend. She's not even trying. When she's dropping the ball that badly, the offer she's making is not attractive. Most guys are naturally not going to be down for it. And that's on her... Guys got their own deals they pass in front of women they want to date. And when the women they ask out keep saying no thanks...it's on the guys to change and sweeten those deals. Same said for a single moms. If the household is a disaster and the kids are monsters, you got no business dragging someone else in before you fix that shit. --- Bite me like one of your French rolls. https://i.imgtc.com/k1IlqEz.jpg https://i.imgtc.com/p1ooHhw.png ... Copied to Clipboard! |
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