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Topic	I never really got why pregnant women are supposed to get special treatment
ClockworkHare 08/21/19 3:40:24 PM #26:	KlownArt posted... Because people aren't all assholes. Whether or not it is their own fault or not. Your minor inconvenience goes a long way for them. I'm sure people have helped you in a lot of small ways. I hope you return the favor to others. Just don't forget no one's obligated to do those things. They're favors, nothing more. THAT is a big part of why the kind gestures deserve respect. People DON'T have to do them. And when there's a noticeable rise in ungrateful recipients who instead treat those gestures as obligations, they don't feel the need to also thank those who did the courtesy. That's bad and it discourages new people from sharing kindness. Showing thanks in return is basically tipping the person who was kind. And you might be shocked at how many people today don't even bother with that despite it taking so little effort. I'm saying part of the reason so many people don't bother with those old fashion gestures anymore is because the simple courtesy of returning gratitude has also taken a nosedive. There's a big difference between someone properly thanking you for randomly giving them your seat and someone impatient flat out glaring at you for not being their footstool on demand. The latter is treating you as a servant, not a good samaritan. So if someone's not in a hurry to do anyone else a favor, that's fine. It's their right and they're not obligated to be charitable. They're NOT a terrible person for being that way either. And I say that as a habitually charitable person myself. We don't know what they're going through. THEY might need that seat more than some uppity bystander who's feeling entitled to it because of tradition. But you know a good way to convince people to be more charitable to others? Shaming them? Nope. That has the opposite effect. Show them kindness can be rewarding by rewarding kind people and not taking the courtesies for granted. THAT'S how you get more on board. --- Bite me like one of your French rolls. https://i.imgtc.com/k1IlqEz.jpg https://i.imgtc.com/p1ooHhw.png <cite>ClockworkHare posted [p:926366022] in I never re... [t:77954563]...</cite> <quote>KlownArt posted...</cite> <quote>Because people aren't all assholes. Whether or not it is their own fault or not. Your minor inconvenience goes a long way for them. I'm sure people have helped you in a lot of small ways. I hope you return the favor to others.</quote> Just don't forget no one's obligated to do those things. They're favors, nothing more. THAT is a big part of why the kind gestures deserve respect. People DON'T have to do them. And when there's a noticeable rise in ungrateful recipients who instead treat those gestures as obligations, they don't feel the need to also thank those who did the courtesy. That's bad and it discourages new people from sharing kindness. Showing thanks in return is basically tipping the person who was kind. And you might be shocked at how many people today don't even bother with that despite it taking so little effort. I'm saying part of the reason so many people don't bother with those old fashion gestures anymore is because the simple courtesy of returning gratitude has also taken a nosedive. There's a big difference between someone properly thanking you for randomly giving them your seat and someone impatient flat out glaring at you for not being their footstool on demand. The latter is treating you as a servant, not a good samaritan. So if someone's not in a hurry to do anyone else a favor, that's fine. It's their right and they're not obligated to be charitable. They're NOT a terrible person for being that way either. And I say that as a habitually charitable person myself. We don't know what they're going through. THEY might need that seat more than some uppity bystander who's feeling entitled to it because of tradition. But you know a good way to convince people to be more charitable to others? Shaming them? Nope. That has the opposite effect. Show them kindness can be rewarding by rewarding kind people and not taking the courtesies for granted. THAT'S how you get more on board. --- Bite me like one of your French rolls. https://i.imgtc.com/k1IlqEz.jpg https://i.imgtc.com/p1ooHhw.png</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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