nemu posted... If you're saying it does not need to be disclosed, you are saying it's not a big deal. You are actively comparing it to other minor things which someone may not need to disclose while engaging in sexual intercourse. Other than an STD, that is the biggest thing for the normal person.
Thats not what Im saying. Thats what youre saying Im saying. Youre being disengenous again.
You're saying it's on the onus of the person sleeping with the transperson to actively seek out info that they are in fact trans. You're acting like that would be a completely normal thing for someone to do for every potential sexual partner, when that would most likely end most sexual encounters before they start. You are downplaying the idea entirely. Do you really think some woman would sleep with a guy who says, "by the way, I would never sleep with a transperson."
Im saying that everyone has the personal responsibility to let a potential partner know their dealbreakers. Everything else is you putting words in my mouth.
And the problem with your statement is that you're putting the onus on the deceiving end of the deception (in the biological sense). You're the one who said the person having sex with the transperson has to take responsibility for their actions. That is downplaying it.
Youve completely run out of arguments so youre putting words in my mouth repeatedly.
You have a responsibility to yourself to let a potential partner know your dealbreakers. It is not anyone elses fault for not knowing what is personally a dealbreaker for you. Do you have an actual counter argument or are you going to put more words in my mouth?
You're totally dancing around the entire issue and just sticking with dealbreakers over and over and over. It's like you cannot actually argue the point, but you don't want to lose.