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Lost_All_Senses posted...

I got a question for people with shitty communities. Do you feel like you deserve to be around better people? Or are you just as shitty as your shitty friends?

Cause you gotta be the person you want to be around.

I feel like this cuts both ways

There is a phrase "you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with". I think this applies to our internet usage here(such as the generally toxic gamefaqs). But as also in real life, if you are surrounded by people that are constantly doom and gloom, lying, and will intentionally or unintentionally sabotage your efforts, that will eventually wear you down to become like them.

Kombucha posted...

HighOnSolar posted...

is there more to this..? a little hard to travel to paris when you're paying bills straight out of college, can't all be ceos.

It was more like, we would rather not leave this garage rather than we would not leave the country.

especially in cases like this. It wouldnt matter how much he was like what he wanted to be, that group would forever drag him down. If this person had any kind of mental health problems or was already stressed or worn down, leaving this group I would imagine would be quite difficult. And that is my problem anyway, and probably the problem of a lot of people.

We wake up, realize our life is a type of hell yet strangely comfortable(not wanting of food or a house or water or anything), yet we are objectively miserable. We decide, "hey guys let's change and stop being miserable" and that is hit with every conceivable possible excuse in the world as to why that won't work. The world is conspiring against you afterall(could be true, but who cares, try anyway damnit)

At least in my view, I find it very hard to make self improvement while surrounded in a toxic cycle feedback loop.

and yes I Feel like i deserve better than this. But I also know i have to work for it, but I sadly let myself get stuck in this hell, so it will be hard and everyday is a struggle because of that.

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Then we have shitty bosses that compound the problem....I've seen bosses who the first thing in the morning are already fuming and ready to blow....that just ensures the day is about to be a total suck.

It really is a cycle of toxic feedback loop