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TopicMy ex did something I think is pretty scummy
Fight_The_Power
08/22/18 1:53:42 PM
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KhanJohnny posted...
Fight_The_Power posted...
KhanJohnny posted...
Fight_The_Power posted...
And guess what, you aren't obligated to "closure"

The fact that you think that is evidently a problem and shows that you have some growing up to do


So you don't see any dissonance between someone telling you they want to be your friend, and them proceeding to shit all over your feelings.

No she doesn't owe me closure. But an actual friend would try to help you get it.


Your idea of "closure" boiled down to her giving you another chance and that's quite a lot to ask for from someone you consider a friend. She wanted no more of it, she wanted to move on. You aren't. That doesn't make her the shitty person. It makes you look manipulative as fuck

There is nothing manipulative about saying I want to take you out and talk to you for a bit. Obviously I want her to take me back, but I don't expect her to or hold any hard feelings if she doesn't which I made clear. It costs her absolutely nothing to listen to me express myself to her for a little while, and just rejecting it in the end, and making it amicable.

Also I didn't consider her a friend. She wanted friendship, I didn't.


It does cost her something though. Time and emotional strain. When people are done with something, they're done. They outright avoid it because they don't want to continue getting wrapped up in conflicting feelings and emotions. You lack perspective and you think you're owed something. That's not her problem

You basically won't take "no, I don't think I can do this" for an answer. Do you not see how that comes off as manipulative
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