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KhanJohnny 08/22/18 12:48:33 PM #116: | Kazuma_Yagami posted... First of all. TC if you are at a point where you have to have a last pitch in order to keep your relationship, then it is most likely not going to work. Lets ignore the fact that this was an open relationship for now (which only hurts your case). Especially if you told her youre going to give a last pitch, I 100% guarantee you she has made up her mind. You should have just been chill and when she came by thats when you could have simply showed her why being together would be good. But you screwed that up. Show, dont tell. I doubt this would have worked either, but it would have been a better attempt. 1) I didn't believe that it would really work in the first place. 2) Whether I should have been more distant is a valid point, but I'm not convinced it's the right one. You can easily make the counterargument that by giving her too much space when we're in a long distance relationship, she'll move on a lot more easily and forget about me. I myself had no intentions of pursuing her after this trip, so from my perspective there was simply too much time pressure to not contact her. That may have been a strategic error, but I made my decision and I'm fine with it. You all constantly seem to gloss over the fact that she keeps occasionally texting me too, so much so that my buddies in real life express disbelief that she would do so so soon after a breakup. 3) You all also seem to gloss over how I keep repeating that I wasn't going to keep pursuing her long term. I'm not stalking this girl. We have had a distant and occasional correspondence over the last few weeks, where I've merely asked the question of how she's feeling. I'm not tearfully begging her to come back to me every week. She knows I'm seeing other women, and I know she's seeing other dudes too. ... Copied to Clipboard! |
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