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Topic	My ex did something I think is pretty scummy
Daffadilio 08/22/18 12:56:24 AM #66:	KhanJohnny posted... I absolutely agree. I think she did what she did out of some twisted concern that I wasn't moving on fast enough. But it's just so completely thoughtless and perhaps malevolent from my perspective. But I guess I am more likely to move on faster now. Okay woah did you ever even once, instead of thinking she was being malicious, she was doing LITERALLY THE EXACT OPPOSITE? She probably has confused feelings- she was with you a long time. She was probably pretty okay with the idea of spending a few nights with you, just pretending it was good times, pragmatically brought up the issue of sex, and thought this was all something she could do. Well, that can all be true while shes still living her life on the other side of the country or wherever and along comes some feelings for someone. To me it sounds like she is trying to be honest by letting you know shes seeing someone, not to be cruel, but in fact to be NICE and give you a heads up of this spiel is definitely not going to work because I am now less emotionally receptive. Just because YOU said you knew it wasnt likely to work, doesnt mean SHE knew you knew that. Shes giving you a heads up so you wont get so invested in this plan working that you hurt yourself all over again, but by going and taking it personally you did it anyways. Heres the fact of the matter- what she does with her life now will have very little, if even a single thing, to do with you. She is not living her life to spite you, she is not making decisions simply to annoy you, she is not going to be thinking of you close to at all. So dont take. Anything. Fucking. Personally. She didnt really owe you anything, and if you truly just wanted to have a good time with her as a last hurrah to the memories of you two then you could still do that but I highly recommend her getting a motel. Just because you are guaranteed to make this awkward and uncomfortable for her and she will probably lose sympathy and become more annoyed and potentially hostile due to youre overbearing sense that she did you wrong. I literally went through such a closely similar situation recently that I feel you could actually be my ex, hilariously enough. --- You remind me of the times when I knew who I was... <cite>Daffadilio posted [p:907326562] in My ex did ... [t:76925390]...</cite> <quote><cite>KhanJohnny posted...</cite> <quote>I absolutely agree. I think she did what she did out of some twisted concern that I wasn't moving on fast enough. But it's just so completely thoughtless and perhaps malevolent from my perspective. But I guess I am more likely to move on faster now.</quote> Okay woah did you ever even once, instead of thinking she was being malicious, she was doing LITERALLY THE EXACT OPPOSITE? She probably has confused feelings- she was with you a long time. She was probably pretty okay with the idea of spending a few nights with you, just pretending it was good times, pragmatically brought up the issue of sex, and thought this was all something she could do. Well, that can all be true while shes still living her life on the other side of the country or wherever and along comes some feelings for someone. To me it sounds like she is trying to be honest by letting you know shes seeing someone, not to be cruel, but in fact to be NICE and give you a heads up of this spiel is definitely not going to work because I am now less emotionally receptive. Just because YOU said you knew it wasnt likely to work, doesnt mean SHE knew you knew that. Shes giving you a heads up so you wont get so invested in this plan working that you hurt yourself all over again, but by going and taking it personally you did it anyways. Heres the fact of the matter- what she does with her life now will have very little, if even a single thing, to do with you. She is not living her life to spite you, she is not making decisions simply to annoy you, she is not going to be thinking of you close to at all. So dont take. Anything. Fucking. Personally. She didnt really owe you anything, and if you truly just wanted to have a good time with her as a last hurrah to the memories of you two then you could still do that but I highly recommend her getting a motel. Just because you are guaranteed to make this awkward and uncomfortable for her and she will probably lose sympathy and become more annoyed and potentially hostile due to youre overbearing sense that she did you wrong. I literally went through such a closely similar situation recently that I feel you could actually be my ex, hilariously enough. --- You remind me of the times when I knew who I was...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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