I dont think people owe others closure. I mean, why? If she had made up her mind she didnt want you back why does she owe it to you to sit there and listen to you make a final pitch?
What does she lose by it? It's two nights following a four year long relationship. I held her shit the entire summer for free, including over two months after we've broken up. I'm letting her stay at my place for free instead of getting a hotel that'll cost her an extra few hundred bucks.
What is so fucking hard about spending two nights with me where I was going to take her out on the town and treat her to food and drinks and sex, and maybe deal with a couple last appeals from me about why we should get back together? I told her not to feel worried about taking advantage of me, and that it was my pleasure?
What does she gain from throwing an alleged non-serious, noncomital relationship in my face?
I mean what do you gain? And as for that other stuff, I dont really think its all that special. Holding onto her stuff? I mean thats not really that huge of a deal. Staying with you? Again Ive had friends stay at my place before no problem. Again, not a huge deal. Buying dinner? Still, not that great.
All of these things you are giving her arent all that much. Maybe in your mind they are but Im telling you these arent grand gestures here.
Im going to tell you something that I hope one day you learn. I know you probably wont listen and thats okay, but here you go:
People dont owe you anything.
I know she doesn't owe me anything. But for someone who claims they want to continue being my friend, and who claims to still love me as a person despite everything that's happened, she really took a massive shit all over my feelings and expectations for no real reason.