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So we had been in a long distance relationship for about a year at this point which turned into an open relationship towards the end, but have been together for four years total. We just broke up a little over a month ago when she last visited me. She still has shit at my apartment and has to come visit me to get the last of her stuff.

I've been texting her about once a week to check in and see how things are going, and I would see if she had any interest in getting back together. She really wasn't receptive to the idea, but I explained to her that once she comes to get her shit, I would make one final pitch to her and if she refuses I would stop pestering her about wanting to get back together. To me this logistically made the most sense, since we were long distance, and I would probably not see her ever again anyway once she gathered her things and went back home. I told her I had no expectations, and that I just wanted the one last opportunity, after which we could work on being friends, if that's what she wanted, which is what she indicated. She never rejected this idea.

So today, she calls me to confirm that her tickets are booked. She then proceeds to drop the bomb on me out of the blue that she's "seeing someone, but not seriously." I honestly had no words. Like I know that she was seeing guys on the side, and I was seeing girls too as we were being open before the breakup, so it's not that I'm that upset that she was hooking up with someone because I expected that. But to essentially ruin my chance at getting the closure I needed, when I specifically told her I had no expectations of her because I just wanted one last chance to make a pitch, and when it was already understood that we were both probably hooking up with people, was just a terrible low blow to me.

In the end I guess it's a good thing, and I learned a valuable lesson: trust no one.