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Topic	How do y'all feel about the advice given in this situation (Love letter advice).
Twin3Turbo 07/17/18 4:02:26 PM #10:	happibivouac posted... Twin3Turbo posted... Basically the only reason to not tell him is because she's afraid of the consequences. Well tough shit. You created this mess, now you have to deal with it as an adult. My feeling is that she should tell him. If he decides he wants to stick around regardless, well at least it's HIS choice. If he decides he doesn't want to do anything until he is sure, well once again tough shit, but don't have him potentially grow attached to a kid that may not be his. This is what they should have told her to begin with when she called. Why would they want to promote this shitty behavior? The logic of the main "love adviser" is consistent with other advice she's given, particularly about cheating. She feels that if you cheated before realize it's wrong, it's in the past, and you don't plan to do it in the future, that it's usually best practice to not tell your partner. At least if you are truly sorry for it and plan to live out the rest of your relationship making up for it. In her eyes it's your guilt to live with and by telling your partner, you're putting that burden on them and will ruin your relationship most likely. If you listen to the audio here, she expresses similar sentiment. I 100% disagree with that approach but those are her thoughts. --- https://imgur.com/PHWbltB <cite>Twin3Turbo posted [p:905246989] in How do y'a... [t:76816235]...</cite> <quote><cite>happibivouac posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Twin3Turbo posted...</cite> <quote>Basically the only reason to not tell him is because she's afraid of the consequences. Well tough shit. You created this mess, now you have to deal with it as an adult. My feeling is that she should tell him. If he decides he wants to stick around regardless, well at least it's HIS choice. If he decides he doesn't want to do anything until he is sure, well once again tough shit, but don't have him potentially grow attached to a kid that may not be his.</quote> This is what they should have told her to begin with when she called. Why would they want to promote this shitty behavior?</quote> The logic of the main "love adviser" is consistent with other advice she's given, particularly about cheating. She feels that if you cheated before realize it's wrong, it's in the past, and you don't plan to do it in the future, that it's usually best practice to not tell your partner. At least if you are truly sorry for it and plan to live out the rest of your relationship making up for it. In her eyes it's your guilt to live with and by telling your partner, you're putting that burden on them and will ruin your relationship most likely. If you listen to the audio here, she expresses similar sentiment. I 100% disagree with that approach but those are her thoughts. --- https://imgur.com/PHWbltB</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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