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Most of the people who say fat shaming is good because it makes them healthier feels like rationalization. They're not really doing it out of a desire to make other people healthier. They want to be able to make fat jokes and consider fat people beneath them without feeling guilty. At least the people who say fat people are disgusting are being honest.

Even if you genuinely hope that fat shaming will make people healthier, you are wrong.

Fat shaming doesn't work. This is because being fat is not a behavior. It is a result.

We shame smoking, not lung cancer. We shame drunk driving, not getting into car accidents. That's why both these things have gone way down. Because we shame the behavior, not the effect.

But with weight gain, we don't really shame any of the things that lead to it. Eating fatty, unhealthy foods is not shamed. Sitting around binging TV shows is not shamed.

Once you've gained weight, you're already at the point where it's becoming difficult to go back. People have formed habits that are hard to break, and their body's metabolism may have adjusted to make them resistant to weight loss. It's usually not just a matter of jogging a few times a week or eating a little less. You have to make big changes to your daily habits. It's not a matter of getting them to not do something. It's a matter of making them feel motivated to proactively make major changes in their lives. And may be hard to judge how much to change or what is more effective.

Shaming them for who they are is much more likely to drive them into depression and make them give up. Because while shaming can be good for making people avoid specific actions, it's very poor for making them take initiative and so things.
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