Hard to imagine someone being angrier at the abused for the way they react to being abused than the actual abuser.
Bad victim! Look what you did!
On the other hand, if Dykstra actually IS lying about the abuse, and Hardwick is being persecuted for it in spite of being innocent, then technically she is the abuser while he is both the abused and the victim in this situation.
One could also argue that in that case the real victim might be the entirety of womankind, since if she did make false accusations and that comes out for sure, then she's effectively made it harder for legitimate victims to come forward and be believed in the future. If valid accusations against people like Harvey Weinstein helped allow other victims to come forward and gain justice for their own abuse, false accusations only help slam that door shut again.
Should have clarified that I was referring more to the Chris Brown/Rihanna situation that some users were talking about ---
If they drag you through the mud, it doesnt change whats in your blood