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It's selfish to those left behind because they suffer the loss.

But you have to look at it from a different angle.
Suicide is not always about being depressed.
It's about the feeling of hopelessness.
Hopelessness is a lot more than being depressed or sad.
It's about having no options, this is as good as it gets and it's horrible, others are better off without me, I'm doing people a favor by non existence, I won't be missed, it'll hurt others but they'll move on and be better off...
Some do it because they think that others will be better off.
In their minds, it's not selfish but a harsh selflessness that leads them to do it.
Of course it's not how others feel but they don't know that.

Where I live, it's common to see these flower memorials where someone has been killed in a auto accident.
They're all over the place and people maintain them for years.
I've frequently wondered if they paid that much attention to the person when they were alive?
It's easy to do in an absence.
This conversation, is suicide selfish, comes up when there is a high profile suicide or a close suicide to us.
This conversation, after the fact, is no different than the street memorials all over the place.
We hurt and want to do something to soothe our loss. Sometimes, we get to lay flowers at the site of the accident and maintain it, other times we question and judge out of pain and frustration.
Maybe we do this out of guilt? a little feeling of I should've/could've done more when they were alive so I'll do this so that I don't feel as bad?
"They left me behind. They were selfish!"
Maybe if we extended ourselves a little more, paid attention, a little more, been a little less selfish with our time, maybe they wouldn't have been selfish by ending their time?
Maybe they wouldn't have reached the point where they felt that they were doing us a favor by leaving us?
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Thoughts and prayers, moment of silence, I like turtles.
~C.O.I.~