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Topic"Parents should never spank their kids."
Sami1000
02/18/18 8:26:08 PM
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ImTheMacheteGuy posted...
Sami1000 posted...
hockeybub89 posted...
Sami1000 posted...
Bullying should lead to getting expelled.

Kicking children out of school benefits no one. That is not sensible discipline. You're not teaching a kid a lesson. You're damning him for life for being a shithead kid.


The kid will go to another school and hopefully remembers what happens if he starts bullying someone. Bullying can have severe consequences, you know. Should another kid suffer, so that the bully won't have to suffer?


I'm actually an example when it comes to arguments about bullying and consequences... just an anecdote that is, but I might as well share.

I've always been an angry person. Back in early elementary school, for reasons I don't really know, I just had it out for this one girl in a younger grade. She hadn't done anything. I just had this misguided hatred toward her, like misplaced anger I didn't understand and she happened to have the misfortune of it being directed at her for reasons I don't know. I bullied her. I was spoken to. I didn't stop. I don't think it ever got out of hand beyond just general dickery and threatening/intimidating behavior, but it was escalating.

After having gotten in trouble inconsequentially a few times, I had a sit down with my parents and the principal. I don't remember it exactly, but I remember getting the impression that this poor girl was terrified of me, that I had no explanation for what I had been doing, and that if I continued doing was I was doing, I would make the situation exponentially worse for myself. I wouldn't get away with any bullying incident and there would be consequences. I got the sense that by continuing with that behavior, I'd be forcing the school's hand to impose consequences on me that would be hindering and suppressive. I don't know if I had the insight at that age to think of things like incarceration, but I get the sense that in a way, I did get that. I remember arriving at the conclusion, through this sit down, that for my own sake, I could not continue to act that way, I had to stop. Whatever was said got through to me. I never bothered that girl again or bullied anyone else.

I've never had a sense of discipline. I've perpetually responded negatively to any form of punishment, from best case scenario feigning obliviousness to worse case serious retaliation, but thanks to that one conversation, I've always had a strong sense of consequence keeping me grounded and keeping me out of trouble. I'm morally gray, I'm not big on the law or authority except when it's convenient for me, I've actively led bosses to be nervous/apprehensive about trying to punish me at any level (granted I wasn't doing anything fucked up beyond not taking shit from them)... but at the same time, never been fired, never been arrested, never even been in a fight (been hit a few times but never swung back. No harm done either way).


Thanks for sharing. It was interesting to read, you kinda had life changing moment there.
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