Can you honestly just fucking grow up? No one is saying that or implying that. Can you stop painting everyone who is curious about the why as having some nefarious agenda to shit on men and praise the abused woman. Its tiring and childish.
None of us have said things have to change or that people need to adjust their habits at home. Its looking at the WHY do women not want to take those shifts. Is it to take care of family because the man isnt doing as much? If so, I would consider it decent to at the very least appreciate someone doing things for their family
Cut the crap. The nebulous "but WHY I wonder" questions are never genuine. They're vague as to imply something more, when there's nothing more there. Even in your reply here, you had to tag on "well maybe it's because men aren't doing enough at home." Are you even willing to entertain the notion that the "why" is simply "because they want to" and that society is, in fact, pretty much evenly balanced based on those preferences? That rational adults distribute work between each other in a fair way? Because if not, then you're no better than the label I'm providing because you presuppose a problem and go looking for evidence.
And oh by the way, if you've EVER used some "Trump cultist" derivative to describe anyone defending him in a topic, then you can fuck right off with complaining that I suggest some people think there's a patriarchy when we both know damn well that's (that some people believe it) not even up for debate.
Definitely agree with this. I've also noticed that the people who claim to be interested in the "why" only ever seem to care why women are choosing to work less hours, or why less women are choosing to go into math or computer science, etc. They never give a shit why less men are choosing to go into nursing or veterinary medicine, or why men are much more likely to choose fields where they'll be killed or maimed. ---