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Well doc, the gist of my problem is I want to get married, but I don't know how to find the right woman.

I have lived in a town of approximately 60000 people since 2003. Moved here when I was a freshman in high school. I'm turning 30 this year. (I would feel worse about that but I actually look pretty young for my age so that isn't as big of a factor in this as it could be.)

After trying to begin my first relationship for all this time, I feel like I have exhausted all conventional Avenues. Nothing ever turned up for me in high school or college. I somehow managed to spend a year and a half in a tiny Christian College that marries 80 percent of its own student population without developing any significant relationships. I made connections for networking but that's about it.

After college I have met a few women, and even went on one date after a party at work. Once we went out for coffee, to my surprise, this woman let me know she already had a boyfriend. A nice detail to leave out before a date isn't it? After that I just don't know. (There are also other situations I'm leaving out for now where I approached women in a casual and friendly atmosphere, and I've been turned down every single time.)

(Well I did meet a fun girl at comic con once. But she turned out to be 19, so I backed off.)

I don't intend on getting drunk off my rear end and hooking up with some bar chick. I'm not a drinker unlike most of this town, and I don't think I would want to hook up with anyone who goes to those type of establishments. I have tried to meet women in my church through small groups and potlucks. But the vast majority of them are already taken. The rest have not shown any interest in me as far as I can tell, though I have reached out to more than a few. I tried online dating in the past, going so far as to pay for eHarmony for 3 months. I never got a single message back from there. I even tried Bumble just recently. Swiped right on probably a hundred women and never got a single message back from them.

Don't get me wrong. I have good friends (guys and girls), and a fantastic, supportive family. We spend a lot of time together and I do my best to go to every party that they invite me to, on the off chance I could meet someone that way.

I love my job working with my brother with autism, as well as a gentleman in a wheelchair here in town. My job helps me make enough money to play basically any game I want at any given time. I go to movies, I participate in a Dungeons & Dragons group as well as other activities here and there. I have all the regular things a man my age would look forward to. All except for a significant romantic relationship. I do my best to stay content but I can't help but feel like I'm missing a vast section of life experience. What do you do when you feel like your town doesn't have many Avenues to meet women, and any efforts you have made have always met with 100% failure?
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