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legendary_zell posted...

Is having sex immediately in each specific instance really worth potentially going too far? It is one hundred percent CLEAR that she did not want to have sex. She gave more verbal and non-verbal cues than I've EVER heard from a girl in real life and I completely gave it up at the first sign of any reluctance. Because being horny doesn't excuse willfully ignoring whether you have affirmative consent.

If you don't understand that based on what this woman said and did, he should have chilled the fuck out, I'm scared for women in your life. And the fact that so many people are defending him and saying that they ignore signs of non-consent like this or say "well if what he did is wrong, throw me in jail"...you see why some women have the opinions of the average man that they do. Y'all sexual scripts are fundamentally broken and dangerous.

This, really.

If she didn't want to do anything with him, should she have done the sexual things she did? Probably not. But either from wanting him to stop, being too timid to say no properly after her signs were ignored or just not feelings safe she may have thought the best solution was to do it and hope he'd stop. A bit naive perhaps, but I can understand why someone might feel just "giving in" to do one thing would stop someone who is pestering you despite you turning them down.
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