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Solid_Sonic posted...

I think I'm a terrible partner if I got into a relationship. My inability to stand criticism combined with immature temper flares means I'm really prone to getting defensive and raising my voice. I don't want to put someone through that.

There are loads of people with that kind of personality and live happy lives. Sure, it might make it more difficult, but it's not a death sentence. People are understanding, people have tempers and feelings and others recognize that. You just need to find someone that knows it's just a temperament and not you just bring malicious.

I don't think there's any couples ever that have ever 100% matched in personality. Compromise, empathy, and understanding along with good communication will go a long way in helping a partner accept that part of who you are.

You also shouldn't try to hide it, it's who you are and you shouldn't change to suit others, as long as we're not talking about you becoming physically violent. Having a temper and being defensive isn't great, but it's also not a relationship killer either. Learning how to navigate each other's emotions and mindset is part of the dating process.

joemodda posted...

Tbh I think I'm slowly arriving to that conclusion as well. I've never been on a date and I've pretty much faced nothing but rejection both irl and online.

I think some people are just meant to be alone and frankly I'm just part of that crowd

This too for me. Tc, you might have issues that restrict your ability to date, but I don't think it's the issues you outlined. At least not entirely. Obviously you know more about yourself than I will ever know about you, and I do think some people are not fit to date, but I almost never feel that way about others. I just recognize you might feel it about yourself.

At this point you have a few options. Either continue on and try to find a person who understands you and can handle you. Or you can work on the issues to get them under control to open up more dating options. Or accept that you are who you are, don't apologize for it, and hope life works out.