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Grimlyn posted...

o7

I'm pretty fine since I've had him blocked for a while, I tried unblocking but the same stuff came up so it's easy for me to just go back to the block

I may not relate with your capacity to put things behind you in the context of of understanding where that toxic behaviour is coming from, but I appreciate that that insight is offered both ways and not simply defending bad behaviour. I know I've certainly been granted that same effort of understanding when needed so yeah.

for me though I'm sure you've seen some of the many times I've talked about my brother who is absolutely the most reprehensible person I can think of, and I while can recognize the trauma that made him this way as well...... oh dear god it's absolutely not enough to make any second around him the slightest bit tolerable so that stuff really exhausts me

Yeah, I understand. It's not even, to me, about defending the bad behavior. I just feel like more bad stuff gets put into the world if people think of Ulti as a conman instead of just a dude who hurts people because he was hurt which doesn't make it ok, right, or even something you should care about. It's more like me trying to reduce the back and forth stuff tbh. Ulti has said some unhinged shit, he has hurt people, but I feel like making him out to be this villain just breathes life into the pain process. At least, it feels that way?

GTM posted...

hope you're doing okay too Chris

I have been doing a lot better lately, yeah. One day at a time but I have been making some personal strides that I hope can stick.