LogFAQs > #975398451

I agree with you in principle, and I viscerally agree with you emotionally.

But I also recognize that "the onus is on them to change" is nearly equivalent to "fuck it, they're never gonna change."

Because nothing happens in a vacuum. SOMETHING has to happen to change their minds, and it certainly isn't gonna happen in their echo chambers. And people close to them are best equipped to do something.

So unless we wanna go with the "just wait for the racism/bigotry to die out naturally over time" approach (which... hasn't exactly been successful so far), then someone's gotta talk to them. It's nobody's responsibility, but it's necessary for somebody.

And for what its worth, cutting them off is itself a message. and can be compelling in its own right. So by icing them out, you are technically still trying to "sway" them, if incidentally.