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joe40001 posted...

Sick of hearing about it? Do you also think it's largely overblown? And/or it's just not something that you've encountered in your life at all?

Yes in think it's largely overblown. I don't think it's something most people encounter in daily life and I think the discourse ends up creating unnecessary fear and chilling effect in some people about how "you can't say this in 2023", etc.

joe40001 posted...

You might be doing them a disservice by assuming their claim, but idk I think that anecdote is kind of interesting, don't you think?

I pretty strongly dislike Reagan because a lot of horrible modern problems are downstream from his empowering of big capitalism, but the idea of somebody who is legitimately a fanboy of Reagan hiding his picture out of fear during dating is interesting. Is he wrong to hide that if he does really identify with Reagan? Is he being reasonable hiding that because almost all dates would react badly?

If a date sees the poster and immediately drops him because she doesn't think a Reagan fanboy has opinions or societal thoughts she finds valuable I don't really have an issue with that. That's what dating is..finding out who you are compatible with and who has certain values you agree with. It ultimately depends on what the exact opinions she thinks he has. Like, should she ask him and confirm her suspicions? Sure, it's good to not assume too much all at once.
And as I mentioned above, chilling effect. He now thinks every date is going to be someone who even cares in the first place, and now he's going to extraordinary steps to hide it.

joe40001 posted...

You don't find the idea that a person might be deeply afraid about being judged on politics when dating to be interesting? Unwarranted or not it's interesting that for some people they are really scared of such things, IMO.

What is wrong with judging someone based on their politics and idea of local, state, and national policies?

Could I date someone who agrees with some conservative ideas about taxation or the importance of local and state policies? Sure. Them wanting a lower capital gains tax and me wanting a higher capital gains tax is not a red flag.
Could I date someone who is a modern day republican and thinks immigrants are a scourge on the country? NO!!! Does me saying no mean I'm judging someone on their politics? What counts as politics? So to answer your question, I think it's good that people date based on compatibility and acknowledgment of shared important values, even if those values are about politics and policies.