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I'm not reading this whole thread. But I will say I disagree a ton about them being bad.
I literally would've had zero dates and had sex zero times (aside from craigslist casual, etc.) if it wasn't for dating sites. I would likely be a virgin and an incel at this moment if it wasn't for them.

Dating sites are great because you can get to know a little about a person from reading their bio. Offline you can't just assume a ton of shit about a person by just looking at them at a show or bar or wherever the fuck people meet people -- so you're likely required to small talk if you're approaching total strangers. As for people who aren't total strangers - there's a bigger fear or rejection and awkwardness, especially in workplace settings. You don't know how the other person will reciprocate because you don't know what exactly they're looking for without knowing them incredibly well; on dating sites you know everyone is either there for dating or sex, so you can assume those two things when engaging in conversation. Without that foreknowledge I'd be even less likely to talk or flirt with someone offline, especially if I fear it could be misconstrued as sexual harassment or create future awkwardness.

Like if you say you hate dating sites - what's your alternative? Because approaching strangers or rolling the dice with acquaintances offline is way, way more difficult and carries much bigger risk.

As for my advice with dating sites just ask questions, man. If there's anything in a profile that could prompt a question - use it. It gets your foot in the door and you'll be more likely to get a response and at least a shot at an ongoing conversation -- it also shows women that you're willing to take the time and listen. I'm fat and out of shape, constantly broke, barely ever made any money above the poverty line until a few years ago, put zero effort into updating my wardrobe ever, am not successful by anybody's standards, etc. or whatever other crap incels try and say guys need -- and I don't have any troubles online on dating sites at all.