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TeaMilk posted...

is this really how most people think? That if a girl* wants to play video games with a guy its sexually motivated? It almost feels presumptuous to just bring up I'm in a relationship. Like "teehee btw I have a boyfriend, don't flirt with me silly boys ;)"

It's not that it's automatically assumed. We just don't know for sure what he's thinking. It's possible he's thinking that, but it's also possible that dating you never even crossed his mind. Gotta cover all the bases, just in case.

If it comes up naturally, then sure I'm not gonna pretend I'm not in a relationship or anything. But I think people should have friendships outside of dating and I would like that. Also gay people are out there

I just can't shake the feeling that this is fucking weird lol. Im not trying to hide anything but id feel weird if a new friend brought some random guy probably? Itd be totally different if it was a group get together with other people (I really should have gone to that farewell lunch)

I only suggested it because you said you have a hard time with one on one interactions if you're not familiar. And I don't think it's weird to bring up your boyfriend. Even if he doesn't have to be friends with every person you befriend, he's a part of your life.

You can just casually bring him up while you're chatting with this ex-coworker. Like if he mentions a game that cornman played, your can go "I haven't tried that game, but my boyfriend loved it." Or whatever feels natural for you. I bring up my girlfriend all the time. Not because I feel like the other person needs to know, but because I just like talking about her lol.

And hey, maybe he has a partner too and you can do a double date or something.

Either way I'm nowhere close to doing an irl hang out so I won't worry about it for now

Yeah don't stress about it. We're just offering suggestions and seeing if any ideas sound appealing to you.

Yeah but a lot of you guys are also 30 yr old whiteboy gamers who watch rick and morty so I thought this was the perfect place to ask

I'm a 33 year old black guy. Don't know if that changes my perspective lol