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Ruvan22 posted...

I... I didn't say you said he "hates her guts" or sniffs her chair? I was asking you to show where it seemed he had interest in being a friend outside of it possibly leading to sex. So for the second time, I'm asking - are you saying it's okay to act like a friend towards someone you wouldn't be otherwise be friends with (NOT HATE) so you can have sex with them?

Giblet_Enjoyer posted...

Not enough information.

So if there's not enough information, how are you concluding that he's acting appropriately?

On your anecdote - are you saying guys should hound girls for years? Because while persistence CAN be good thing, ignoring someone repeatedly telling you no seems the opposite of caring for others.

"There's no reason to think the girl in the text told him no or to go away"

So you believe it is okay for guys to hound girls for years, as long as they don't say no? A girl that hasn't clearly stated "No" "Go away" etc is saying it's okay for the guy to keep hounding her to "get what he wants"?

This in essence is the problem - the guy (according to you) kept putting "friend" tokens in the girl to get "what he wanted". He *wouldn't* have put friend tokens in her if he didn't want sex. Are you saying it would be okay for him to complain and get angry if he "didn't what he wanted" after years?

Why isn't it ok for a man to experience an emotion?

Did I say "its not okay for a man to experience an emotion"? You shouldn't boiling things down to either/or - a man can experience many emotions - that's okay and valid for all people, women or men. It's the expression of the emotions that people are calling into question here. If somebody is purposefully acting deceitfully to get something they want and then get angry they didn't get it... that's neither healthy nor mature (imo). But to be clear, you feel it would have been okay for the guy you went to HS with to have gotten angry and expressed it to her if she stared dating someone else?