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Gladius_ posted...

I don't post in topics like this because I don't have an ideal solution and my thoughts are torn on it. However, I do find it weird that people seem to think the only one ruined financially is the man in this situation.

Pregnancy is expensive, so is soley raising a child, and if you have your own place paying your own bills etc that just makes the situation harder. Both parties are in that boat. Children aren't cheap.

I never said the father is the only one who could be financially ruined, though. The mother could also be ruined financially. But the mother is the one who decides whether or not to ruin the fathers life financially. If she wants to keep the baby and it ruins her financially, she chose that option herself. But the father never got to pick whether or not he was ruined financially, which is the problem

emblem-man posted...

Seems bad that the kid should financially suffer due to the father not feeling ready.

I guess I don't see child support as punishment for the father, but instead I see it as support for the child.

Obviously, there can be bad and unfair child support arrangements. But at its most basic, it's meant to support the child

Sure, it seems bad. But just because the father pays child support doesnt mean the child still wont suffer financially. For example, if the father doesnt make enough, not the child and father both suffer financially