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TheOnionKnight posted...

Yeah, the whole line of thinking is almost in reverse order. The self-worth should come before the girlfriend. Because that's what will attract a potential girlfriend. And "self-worth" can come from simply having a positive attitude. It doesn't need to be attached to money, status, career accomplishments, or anything like that. If you're fun to be around, then people will like being around you.

Bingo, too many single guys think that having a girlfriend or getting laid will somehow relieve them of feeling lonely. I think the reason many single guys feel that way is because they never got a chance to have a girlfriend for whatever reason like social anxiety towards the opposite sex or lack of self-esteem to do so. Working on yourself should absolutely be the first thing every guy should try to strive for first. The counterpoint I hear from guys who hate my advice about self-worth always say "but women don't have to work that hard to give themselves self-worth" and I answer them that they got their own shit to worry about that most men in their life probably would never deal with. There's no reason to play oppression Olympics and work with what you're given.