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cuttin_in_farm posted...

I feel were skipping a step.

Theoretically, someone without confidence believes they cant do something or get something.

Youre saying once you get something, youll be confident.

But the fact someone lacks confidence means they cant or wont get the thing. Thats the issue.

Youre saying something similar to find something that brings joy to a depressed person. The problem is exactly that they cant or wont find joy in things.

Your gym example. Someone can go to the gym and work out. Now what? How will they gain confidence? I would suspect they start gaining confidence when their effort is acknowledged by others. Either by compliments or being able to help physically with things for others.

I think gaining confidence is nearly impossible to do without outside affirmation.

Hopefully that made more sense. If you still dont necessarily agree, thats cool. Just wanted to elaborate my thoughts. I like your topic.

Just gotta decide whether or not you want it bad enough. You won't gain anything doing nothing

As for the gym, you see the improvement and feel better yourself. you really don't need others' acknowledgement there

And I don't mean any of this to be ass-holey. Sorry if it comes across that way