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Jiek_Fafn posted...

Lol, my bff has called me in similar situations. She's subject to crushes on guys that she first meets without knowing a thing about them. She's super cute, so typically she can make things progress, but I remember her calling me crying when she found out her personal trainer was gay. I very much empathize with your friend.

Also, the shirt is what's making me look slim. I discovered long ago that you can mask a slight tummy just by making shoulders bigger. So you still get a nice V shape. Half of my shirts were bought to be tight in my midsection to show off that I'm not hiding a pooch though. I actually judge a lot of my weight loss progress by an honest tight fitting pair of jeans/shirt.

Haha its nice to not be the only one. I definitely have to temper myself against tendency to meet a person and immediately want to be like, dont worry, the children are gonna have AWESOME names.

I think those are really good tips as far as understanding how to dress yourself to bring out your best features, more people should understand things like that and how they can really improve ones confidence. I definitely use clothes (and posture!) to mitigate the appearance of the effects weight loss has had on my body, and its taken a lot of time and effort to acknowledge that some of the things I really dislike the appearance of are not fixable without surgery. Thats been a pretty recent breakthrough for me recently in helping disentangle my self esteem from some of those things to relax and feel better about my appearance. Im just typing at this point but I think I wanted to say that whether its the shirt or the work youre putting in, you still look good lol.