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CRON posted...

I've very carefully and calmly explained how I feel and what my anxieties and fears focus on, multiple times. I've done this in calm situations where I wasn't feeling anxious, but just wanted to explain it. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells when talking about it objectively and rationally, because when I use terms that (at least I) associate with emotions, my mother will usually roll her eyes.

My mother usually doesn't say anything and it feels like I'm talking to a concrete wall. The only advice she's ever given me was a semi-joking "you need to meditate and do yoga". I vividly remember being in the 6th grade and having an admittedly over-the-top rant about how I felt like I'd never go to college and amount to anything, and she didn't say a single word in response.

As for my ex, she was unfortunately very mentally ill, so I can't necessarily blame her for behaving the way she does, as her particular diagnoses aren't congruent with empathy and sympathy.

Damn. Seems like your mom really doesn't get it. At this point, it's not the answer you'll wanna hear, but you gotta lower your expectations from her and realize she's probably not gonna change any time soon. Gotta accept she won't get it and not expect her too. I remember you saying she was depressed too in another topic, I believe. She doesn't seem equipped to be your support