LogFAQs > #963203073

I'm adopted, so I don't really know how this even works. I never bonded with either parent. I fought with my mother a lot when I was younger. We rarely agreed on anything and trust was always limited on my end. Things have improved but only distance has allowed that. I stayed with her at the beginning of covid and that was rough, and then again last year when my apartment was being renovated and that was also rough. My father on the other hand, I have not spoken to in several years. He was very toxic and a prime example of how mental illness can be transmitted through trauma even with no genetic connection. A part of me wants to reach out, forgive him and move on... but at the same time, I have no faith that he could actually understand the magnitude of what he has done and learn from it. Trust is limited with my mother. It doesn't exist with my father, and I have no cause to believe it ever could. That's just the tip pf the iceberg too lol.