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FLUFFYGERM posted...

what?

i'd rather not make this a topic about whether men are raped/assaulted/harassed or not (they certainly are, and at nontrivial rates) but the largest source of male victimization is one that is largely separated from modern society (prisons) and tangential to the discussion of whether the typical man in society is in a position where he is relatively shielded from being a victim of sexual violence compared to the typical woman.

it's also tangential to the much more important and illustrative point that these men are in a position to reduce womens' victimization simply by being more present and vigilant in situations that a smaller subset of toxic men take advantage of. that this is analogous to what white people can do for minorities--simply be more vigilant and speak up when they see something they know is wrong--was the point of the post. privilege is a tool, it can simply be used as comfort by not having to deal with a shitty thing, or it can be used as a tool to reduce that shitty thing (which doesn't really reduce comfort, aside from having the occasional uncomfortable conversation).

there are toxic women who take advantage of men too, of course. and women could be leaning in and helping their male friends not be taken advantage of by those women in ways their male peers really couldn't. which is, again, tangential to the point since i was framing the idea specifically for white women who aren't sure they agree with the idea of white privilege.
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