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FrisbeeDude posted...
Holy shit this reeks of insecurity. I'm sorry black women who have their shit together and don't want to just "smoke pot and go to chipotle" intimidate you.

But this is what it comes down to. A lot of men (especially those in their 20s) typically don't have their shit together, so when they go on these dating sites, they're looking for people who won't rock the boat in that regard. Black women aren't as obviously willing to indulge that, so they get put to the side in favor of the girls with selfies taking during the day holding or coors light or some shit like that. Basically, immature men want immature women and black women typically aren't here for that

That's one way to take what I wrote. I don't think that maturity means all that you think it means. I mean, I guess Jay-Z and Beyonce have a mature relationship in terms of how they've both grown their brand, but I really hope they like each other at the end of the day, you know?

And if that's what you're looking for in a relationship--a stable foundation on which to build prosperity--then fine. I want to find someone who makes my days better emotionally. The pot/Chipotle thing is obviously an oversimplification, but who would you rather hang out with? Someone who legit is looking to have a good time, or someone who has a checklist which you're already not filling out completely? I'm not trying to give you false dichotomies, but that's how I see it in a nutshell.

Strong women very well might intimidate me. But at the end of the day, it's just not what I want. And that might lead to the dissolution of my current relationship, if she "wises up" and moves on to someone more motivated, more willing to check the boxes. But I'm not going to spend my life chasing something that I don't believe in. If your viewpoint is viable, perhaps mine is as well.
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