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Topic	The New York Times: "Is an open marriage a happier marriage?"
legendarylemur 05/17/17 1:51:11 AM #71:	Darmik posted... legendarylemur posted... Darmik posted... Not everyone looks at sex the same way guys. If it works out for them, good on them. Sex isn't always about love. I'd ask if you guys fall in love with every fling you've had but that seems to be a pointless question here. But this is about marriage. It's not some hookup with extra benefits lol. If you're married, generally it's to start a family. I wouldn't want my kids in an environment where open marriage is being practiced. God, it would mess them up. I think if one considered some open relationship, they're obviously not ready for marriage yet Why would your kids know about your private sex life? Again your standards for what a marriage is doesn't apply to everyone. Your standards for sex don't apply to everyone. For some people sex is a job even. If a husband had a threesome with his wife and her friend would he be a cheater? No. What people do to spice up their sex life is up to them. If they're happy, honest and not abusing other people it really doesn't matter what that entails. Practicing some shady alternate sex life away from your kid's eyes? Lol... I mean maybe I guess I'm the weird guy but... that honestly sounds even worse. This is just a discussion about generality though isn't it? The article suggests open marriage is happier marriage as if speaking generally. So I think we should leave the fetishists out of the discussion. The thing about family, the closeness of a parent does very directly affect kids. The United States is rife with actual data comparing the difference between children growing up in a broken family and those growing up in a stable family. A sex life outside of the bond between a parent, no matter how jaded you are, results in some degree of rift, and undeniably, a child growing up in that environment cannot be considered to be in the stable family spectrum. I mean I wish I could post data, but it's fucking late, and it's been freaking years and years since I took some psychology class, but I think what I say isn't something totally out there. An open relationship is giving up on family to some extent. It's a selfish action, and an incredibly selfish one at that. I'd say sometimes it's ok to be selfish, but I personally place a huge emphasis on what's good for the children, and being selfish when growing a family is the last thing that you'd want to happen. It's not a good structure for family in general --- "Iwata was awesome" - Mr. Nintendo dinglebutt <cite>legendarylemur posted [p:879253839] in The New Yo... [t:75334984]...</cite> <quote><cite>Darmik posted...</cite> <quote><cite>legendarylemur posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Darmik posted...</cite> <quote>Not everyone looks at sex the same way guys. If it works out for them, good on them. Sex isn't always about love. I'd ask if you guys fall in love with every fling you've had but that seems to be a pointless question here.</quote> But this is about marriage. It's not some hookup with extra benefits lol. If you're married, generally it's to start a family. I wouldn't want my kids in an environment where open marriage is being practiced. God, it would mess them up. I think if one considered some open relationship, they're obviously not ready for marriage yet</quote> Why would your kids know about your private sex life? Again your standards for what a marriage is doesn't apply to everyone. Your standards for sex don't apply to everyone. For some people sex is a job even. If a husband had a threesome with his wife and her friend would he be a cheater? No. What people do to spice up their sex life is up to them. If they're happy, honest and not abusing other people it really doesn't matter what that entails.</quote> Practicing some shady alternate sex life away from your kid's eyes? Lol... I mean maybe I guess I'm the weird guy but... that honestly sounds even worse. This is just a discussion about generality though isn't it? The article suggests open marriage is happier marriage as if speaking generally. So I think we should leave the fetishists out of the discussion. The thing about family, the closeness of a parent does very directly affect kids. The United States is rife with actual data comparing the difference between children growing up in a broken family and those growing up in a stable family. A sex life outside of the bond between a parent, no matter how jaded you are, results in some degree of rift, and undeniably, a child growing up in that environment cannot be considered to be in the stable family spectrum. I mean I wish I could post data, but it's fucking late, and it's been freaking years and years since I took some psychology class, but I think what I say isn't something totally out there. An open relationship is giving up on family to some extent. It's a selfish action, and an incredibly selfish one at that. I'd say sometimes it's ok to be selfish, but I personally place a huge emphasis on what's good for the children, and being selfish when growing a family is the last thing that you'd want to happen. It's not a good structure for family in general --- "Iwata was awesome" - Mr. Nintendo dinglebutt</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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