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Hasn't happened and might never happen.

It just seems like a headache to tell my immediate family. It's 50/50 in terms of whether or not they'd be okay with it. My parents and I believe my sister are all liberal and voted for Clinton and whatnot, but my parents (especially my dad) are also pretty racist and I could see those attitudes extending towards gays as well. I don't honestly care all that much about whether or not they would accept me, but it just seems like a headache if they cut off all contact with me entirely. I'd rather not deal with the drama leading up to that.

Not sure how my sister would go, but we've never really been on amazing terms. She was always sort of my bully since she was four years older than me, and I've always been cripplingly shy and just a quiet person in general so I never really stood up to her. We still aren't on amazing terms when it comes to one-on-one contact, though I babysit her kids fairly often and our relationship has improved slightly on that basis. I also love the hell out of my niece and nephew so I wouldn't want to lose that if she were to react poorly.

Beyond that, it comes down to family members that I like, but know wouldn't like it, so I'd rather they not find out. My dad's parents are incredibly intolerant in general but have always been really nice to me. My mom's parents are a bit more tolerant, but I know my grandma in particular hates gay people. I once overheard her talking to my mom about how she can't believe that "that kind of stuff" happens in our area when she heard about "men looking for men" on Craigslist. She also refuses to watch Ellen DeGeneres and admits to hating her because she's a lesbian. But that set of grandparents has always been awesome to me otherwise and I'd rather not lose contact with them.

Same goes for my cousin, who is probably the nicest person I've ever met, but is also a hardcore Christian and pretty far right politically, and who has kind of hinted at not being comfortable with gay people in the past. I'm not as sure how she'd react, but I care about her and would rather not lose that point of contact.

In terms of friends, a few that I know are okay with it do know and were pretty nonchalant about it. I have several others who I know openly hate gays and I haven't bothered to tell them.

Living in an extremely hardcore fundie town in southern Missouri is rough as a gay person. Most people aren't exactly understanding here.
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