3) That kinda stuff is degrading. It's really hard to get through with some of those....acts, unless its something you're doing specifically for your partner out of love. Do it for a stranger, and guess what, you just humiliated yourself for no good reason at all.
This is such unbelievable nonsense I don't know where to start.
That's basically what I was getting at.
It's not nonsense.
You may not realize the repercussions now but when you DO do it, there is no going back. Your self confidence goes down, its harder to stay motivated, and you feel like you have a dirtiness in you that you can't clean (for obvious reasons that time travel is not possible).
To give an extreme analogy, it's like yelling at someone. Yes, it may have felt good to say all the things that bother you about someone to that person, but now they will always be hurt because of what you said. Time heals wounds to some extent, yes, but some things such as a fetish video can cause long term trauma.
I'm sorry but this sanctimonious take on things might be fine for some people but it's certainly not a rule, and many of us quite enjoy getting our kink on without worrying about it ruining our self-esteem and mortal souls for all eternity. Personally I find kink extremely liberating, and not just with my life partner. ---