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reincarnator07 posted...

Then please help explain it to me. It's certainly something I used to think, but I don't know why. It was just one of those things that I "knew", like how my country is the greatest country in the world or that adults were always right. It falls apart under scrutiny. The only explanation I have is that it's some biological thing.

It probably is some biological thing. Humans breed at a slow rate, and human children are pretty much helpless for a long time (compared to other animals). Keeping them alive takes a lot of effort and resources, and the survival of the species needs you to do that.

But being biological, rather than logical, doesn't make it any less real, or any less powerful as a driver of behaviour.

If you got with someone who already had a child and came in fully as a step parent, would you love that child less? If not, I don't see that as any different from any child you'd have with a trans person.

I think this would vary by person. Step/surrogate parents are obviously capable of bonding with, and loving, a child. But some really do crave the biological connection, and however much they try, it just wouldn't be quite the same. It's maybe not rational in the modern world, but we have yet to completely shed the instinctual.