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2Pacavelli posted...

I love and care for my girlfriend but I desperately need my relationship to end because her emotional mood swings are suffocating me and giving me intense anxiety and feelings of internal emotional pain.

@2Pacavelli

So the question is how bad is it? Some guys have very low tolerance for any level of emotion and claim issues when there aren't any, and they will likely have issues with most people. If that is the case, you may be the problem.

OR... she is extreme, maybe has BPD, and you would likely be better off with someone else. Have you spoken with her about it? Is it something she is aware of and is it controllable?

I have dated someone with severe emotional swings, likely BPD, and it was not fun, despite how great the high moments were.

I think most relationships people are in are actually not healthy even though there may be beginning care between the two people, due to unresolved emotional issues that a lot of people are dealing with that we all may not even know that we/they are dealing with, until it's too late and we're in situations that aren't necessarily easy to get out of.

Or maybe I'm just jaded due to my own personal experiences

You possibly are jaded. Many relationships are not healthy, but many are. My relationship with my wife is very healthy, but it was not healthy with my ex wife or that ex gf I referenced above.

You just have to find the right person, and also question if you are currently the right person.

_____Cait posted...

It takes two people who are emotionally mature, know how to talk to eachother, have healthy boundaries, and can put their egos aside.

And this