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the_real_Naruto posted...

You need to get used to failing and being okay with it. People will bitch sometimes but you should try and be a DPS so you can learn the inner workings of the game. Although it sucks if you die as a DPS you aren't as critical as the rest of the group.

Plus its not TOO bad. People aren't going to throw you off the deep end for not doing it correctly. I have anxiety and have been kicked a couple of times for screwing up. Or hell, I remember playing healer with my anxiety and when I would go to heal the tank, I'd accidentally not hard click on him(I use controller) so I kept healing myself(at the first mob of the fight) and he died. Instead of understanding that I screwed up and I can fix that, he left.

I stopped healing for awhile after that. It caused a lot of issue but I was able to slowly become more and more confident. I don't heal too often but I can tank a little better than I used to even though I can sorta say I still suck lol. I'm not as frightful of it.

You're not wrong, it's definitely anxiety-driven, irrational behavior, especially since I never actually messed up that badly, but being excessively conscientious so as to avoid inconveniencing others is what I do. I guess I just never felt quite so pressed to know the mechanics in advance in other MMOs, like WoW (endgame raids notwithstanding), where I felt like generally I could join a PUG and heal or dps my way through just fine by reacting to whatever happened. FFXIV, even as early as Copperbell Mines there are non-obvious mechanics the game seems to expect you to know (though at that point as long as someone knows what's going on it's generally fine).

Raiden2909 posted...

Honestly most people are pretty chill with new players, as long as you let the group know that your new most wont have a problem if you make mistakes or if you ask if there is anything special they will explain things to you, Not everyone but most are pretty chill IMO

I think a big issues for me was that I was mostly playing solo and never really got into any of the FCs I joined, and while I tried to get some real life friends to play, it just never happened. Playing with strangers in roulettes or whatever for me generally ranges between neutral and bad, and while most randoms are inoffensive, I guess the overall experience wasn't positive enough that the occasional asshole, even if not directed at me, kind of ruined it.

Also, at a certain point, I wouldn't have considered myself new, exactly, but there's just so much content that when the roulette random selects some instance I did once six months ago, I might not remember that I have to, say, hide behind a snowball or whatever in order to not get frozen and killed.