I live with my parents, my sister, and her four kids. The oldest one just "graduated" elementary school (that's the first seven years of school, roughly ages 5-12, for those of you unfamiliar with the US system). I happened to have a coupon for a Buy 2 get 1 Free on preowned games at Gamestop; I thought it would be a good gift to get my nephew a game with that.
His quack doctor wanted him off games for a while, so I held off for about a week. Eventually I saw him playing his DS again, so I asked my dad if it was ok to get him a game now. He hadn't heard anything about the doctor, so he had no opinion. I thought, alright, he's back on games now so I'll get him a game.
A little thing about my sister: she can be very controlling regarding her kids. What I had in mind for my nephew was something I didn't necessarily want to clear with her, because... well, she can get bats*** crazy about absolutely anything.
One afternoon, I took my nephew out to McDonald's, bought him a shake, and I had a chat with him about junior high and some of the things people never told me. Afterward, I took him to Gamestop to get him the game. I was disappointed in his selection, but oh well, it didn't cost me anything but a coupon.
I asked him to keep the game a secret. I didn't want his mother finding out I'd taken him out.
What happened next is the problem: apparently, he ratted me out that very day. My mother just told me about it tonight, and while my sister is apparently very composed (for her) about the whole thing, I'm ready for her to go nuts about it.
My mother thinks my nephew acted with integrity and is proud of him. I think he stabbed me in the back in one of those situations where you don't tell your mother something. My mother can't understand why I'm angry about it.
Who's right? Was it right for me to get my nephew the game and ask him not to squeal about it, or was he right for running to Mommy so he could get a pat on the head and play the game, too?