I don't even know how to respond to that last point. It sounds like "Well he made me angry so I have every right to kill his character if I want."
No seriously, you don't respond to being smacked on occasion to "LOL I'M GOING TO RUIN THE GAME FOR YOU AND KILL YOUR CHARACTER IF YOU DON'T QUIT IT BRAH".
And I still don't understand why you feel "taking charge" is more important than the enjoyment of your fellow players at the table.
When you do crap like punch the guard in the mouth and nearly incite the wrath of an entire camp of soldiers that aren't the enemy...
Or disregard all the RP going on and jump through portals thereby ruining humans for the only remaining LeShay...
Or go out of your way to tell another player exactly why their plan was "stupid" and piss all over everything they do...
Or accuse players of "derailing" for weeks because of somebody else's internet troubles...
Or throwing OOC tantrums because you aren't getting your way, forcing the DM to literally have his NPCs leap on your blade to resolve the OOC fallout...
You do these sorts of things, and you aren't "taking charge." You're being a dick.
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