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Mike Xtreme posted...

Did you tell your employer? Seems like an issue that could cause you some problems

Im going to. Ive been brushing it off but after getting another couple of marijuana videos today and a late night call the other day I think its time.

My company issued me a cell phone. I asked for one as they make you install some security shit to use the mobile version of the work apps and I refused to allow any company to have that kind of control on my personal phone. This program would allow them to fully control my phone or wipe it but only if I asked them to. No thanks.

Anyway, I keep getting calls by random dudes who ask me for their friend that they never name. Theyll say something m oh hi, I was just calling my friend who has this number and I tell them they have the wrong number. Ive been getting random texts with home addresses, porn links, and marijuana videos.

So yeah pretty sure he was a drug dealer lol

I wfh Im always in pajamas. Im wearing pajama pants rn

Thankfully never had to do that with my husband. Sometimes I just cant get there and he doesnt pressure me. And the times where it may take longer than usual, hes very patient. Normally it isnt a problem and I get there easily enough but I have my off days and hes confident to know it has nothing to do with him. I had an ex who would give me shit if I didnt O fast enough and it just made it even more difficult to get there because I would worry too much. And yes Id fake it with him.

I cried watching that. Horrific.

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Thank you, I honestly really appreciate the encouragement. Youre right, I have been hard on myself. When I posted this, I think I was feeling overly sensitive. When you go on mom/parenting subreddits its always filled with women talking about how all their weight melted off by the 9 month mark (9 months in 9 months out kind of comments) and here I am at 9 months still carrying the baby weight and more.

And yeah sweets are my weakness. Of course Girl Scouts had to knock on our door over the weekend and of course I had to buy Lemonades but I at least can manage eating 2 a day and not more.

DocileOrangeCup posted...

It's ok my mom was 300 lbs after she had me!

Oh wow! Thats rough. My mom gained a lot of weight after kids and never lost it. She always struggled after that and tried various yo-yo diets. I dont want that to be me.

Every restaurant has raised prices it seems. Ive honestly been eating take out less and less and just cooking more. Though groceries went up too. Still can cook at home for cheaper at least.

Best: John Wayne in Orange County. So easy to get through and smooth

Worst: Newark, NJ. Every time Ive had a connecting flight there have been issues

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UGH annoyed

No we probably owe a shit ton again so waiting until the last day as tradition.

Oh and I dont drink anything sugary. Just water. But I dont follow any diet. I try to batch cook healthy foods on Sundays but Ill leave room for snacks like cookies or dark chocolate so I dont hate life. Last week I made chicken teriyaki that I would eat with veggies. The week before I made honey chipotle chicken salads. But maybe Ill eat fast food on some days and just make sure my calories for the rest of the day make up for it.

ekie posted...

1. 130 is not heavy.

2. Dont pay attention to the number on a scae

3. Make it your goal to gain muscle and weigh 140

Im 52 and its all gone to my belly and face. My arms and legs still look the same. I have a hormonal condition that makes weight gain not very attractive on me. I dont have time to worry about muscle gain

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I do have an Apple Watch and I try to take breaks from my desk to go on a 30-40 min walk most days. But these days Im slammed at work and too tired to take baby on a stroll after. I do pretty much most of the household chores though. And chasing and lifting a baby.

AngelsNAirwav3s posted...

I am not nearly as familiar with female diets, especially after giving birth, but I feel like 1200 calories is really low, maybe you could bump that up? You can offset additional calories by adding in some gym time/cardio also

As a woman at 52 my maintenance calories are around 1500 which makes dieting even harder. One extra snack can mess up my day and a cheat meal can ruin my whole week.

g980 posted...

My wife had a baby around the same time as you, she just got back to pre baby weight... but she had the advantage of a baby sucking the calories out of her boob. if youve been doing formula from the start then thats a huge disadvantage - all the new baby stress but none of the free calorie drain

One thing that has helped me as a dad eat better: once we started baby-led weaning, i mostly eat what the baby eats. He eats clean af, so thats usually a protein and veggies, or starch and veggies, etc. I cheat plenty, but usually i can just remind myself that its crazy to make just a baby sized of broccoli.

I still havent figured when to exercise tho

Yeah no breastfeeding so no calorie loss. Baby is not a fan of solids though I keep trying to incorporate new foods. But that makes it hard too because I have to worry about her diet and mine. I do plan on having her try some of the foods I make myself. Tonight Im making turkey bolognese on spaghetti squash. I think shell hate it but eh just gotta keep trying

Im 52

Starting weight before Covid: 114lbs
4 months later and before baby: 121 lbs - eh everyone gained weight wfh
1 month after giving birth: 127 lbs - neat I didnt gain much during pregnancy
3 months after birth: 131 lbs - crap I should eat better and exercise, failed
8 months after birth (last December): 136 lbs - fml what did I do

My eating habits have been terrible since wfh and worse with a baby. I just dont have the energy and kept ordering takeout. In December when I weighed myself at the doctor and saw the number, it hit me hard and I really started to diet.

Ive lost 5 lbs in a month. Back to 131 which I was last July. I started to diet then but I tried keto and IF and it wasnt sustainable. Now Im on a 1200 calorie diet (wouldnt recommend unless youre a shorty like me)

My goal is 120 lbs but ideal would be 115 and it seems like such a long road ahead. Im always hungry and cranky. I work 9-10 hours a day then have a baby to take care of in the evening and I dont have the energy to cook most of the time so forget any of the fad diets. Definitely no time or energy to exercise. Maybe some walks here and there. So I just try and count calories.

I lost 5 lbs but I just undid the damage to myself after I first made a point of losing weight back in July. So I dont feel like Ive made real progress. Mad at myself for gaining so much after baby.

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Pretty normal for pregnant women to feel insecure at some point. Hormones alone make you crazy but add a changing body, fatigue, lack of sleep, nausea, anxiety over the health of the baby, body aches, being bombarded by perfect looking women in the media and ig, etc. Wanting reassurance doesnt mean its some childish games. I was pretty confident throughout most of my pregnancy but I definitely had times where I felt awful about myself and it was hard to really believe my husband still found me attractive. I think some of it is some primal shit too where you worry your mate is going to abandon you and the baby for another younger hotter woman lol

Bluefin nigiri

Its ok. Most parents have that moment where baby falls off the bed/couch/etc. My baby rolled off the couch and on her face at 5 months. I had to fire our first nanny (she was kind of bat shit) and had to work while watching her. She just started learning to roll. She was on the couch with me when I got a slack and looked at it for a second when I heard a thump followed by screaming. Thankfully there was carpet and it was a low couch. She had a good scrape on her nose.

Now shes 9 months and standing on things, cruising, etc. Tumbles on her head almost daily lol

Ive set up a playpen gate with a huge foam mat so thats been a huge help.

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Cocytus posted...

Yeah, I read more mothers are choosing to stay home with their baby instead, which is totally understandable, of course.

Oh no fuck being a sahm. I quit for more money at a better company. Props to those who do though. I just couldnt.

Yes. I quit after I took a whole 6 months of maternity leave. While I was out, everyone on my team quit. They were worried I wouldnt come back so they promoted me and gave me a $25k raise. I took it then and at the end of my leave I took another job for an additional $50k pay bump. Fuck my old job.

My husband also quit and got a $40k pay bump.

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My daughter gave me the longest and sweetest hug after I was done with work today. She wouldnt let go. Just had her little arms wrapped around my neck and buried her head in my shoulder. She just started to hug me back recently. Its those kind of moments that honestly make it worth it TC. Just hang in there. The first few months are the hardest since theyre in potato mode.

Its been hard wfh nearly two years now. I miss interactions with people in the office. We used to get lunch together frequently, day drink in our office, hang out after work, talk in the coffee room... now its just constant work all the time and it can get hard to totally plug off for the day.

josifrees posted...

My daughter is so easy Im worried any other kids are going to have twice the problems to make up for it

Ha. My baby is a lot of work when awake but we are very lucky that she sleeps through the night and has been since she was 3 months old. Lately shes down 7-7:30pm and wakes up between 6-7 am. We have a unicorn baby with that, never sleep trained her. We just know if we have a second the universe will make us pay.

I dont think anyone can really prepare you for how hard it will be until you live it. I had all these cute lounger type things for a baby that everyone swears by. Snuggle me, rockaroo, baby swing... she hated all of them. She wanted to be held AND be in motion so I had to walk her around the house at all times she was awake. Sometimes Id plop her in a stroller and walk around the house to keep her happy. I could never set her down anywhere where she could just chill. Getting her to sleep was 15-20 minutes of bouncing her on a yoga ball. My back has suffered so much Im scheduling physical therapy.

It does get better in some ways but whenever one thing gets better, they learn something new and then that gets hard again. Rolling, crawling, standing, cruising, teething, etc

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This was a tough one. Had to step away and it suddenly came to me a little later.

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Do you have a standing activity toy? Its like a little table you can put them in with toys all around. My daughter loves it. I know someone else who used it with their babies and they called it the baby neglector because their baby also loved it and it frees up some time for you. At six months she was crawling and just generally going after things. Shes got a few plush toys she likes to hug. I have song books she likes too.

And take him on walks too. If the weather allows it in your area.

Daves Killer Bread

No but its fine to start out with while living with your parents. I started off around $50k down here and Ive increased that tremendously over the years with experience.

Happily married for 7.5 years, together 11 and have the most amazing 8 month old girl. It wasnt without its bumpiness between us and there are still times where our tensions run high but we have each others backs for life. Neither expects perfection from the other. And when things get hard, weve gotten better at talking things out with each other.

Scorpio, easily.

Slack was a mistake

CE hates everyone remotely more successful than they are

It can be depending on the context. Obviously not every public proposal is but some abusive men will try and trap women into accepting this way. Often they just started dating for a few months or are doing it to win them back after they did something awful. But if a woman is saying no chances are its not a surprise to the person doing the proposal. People dont do surprise random proposals in healthy relationships. Its discussed thoroughly before it gets to that point.

They just need to start turning away unvaccinated people. Let them treat themselves at home and stop being a drain on our healthcare workers. Maybe then theyll change their tune about being anti-vaxx

I remember you posted about this ex cheating before. Stay strong this time. It has nothing to do with you being unlovable. Nothing to do with you in any way. Some people are just cheating assholes that get off on the thrill. No one will ever be enough for them. Nothing wrong with staying with family while you get back on your feet either. Its a blessing to have the option. Many cant leave abusive relationships because they lack a safety net whatsoever. Im glad theyre there for you and hope you make it through things.

It took me 5 months to find something related to my degree, but this was in 2009 and during a recession.

I always offered but it never got accepted (on first dates anyway). But I always made sure to get the second, if there was one.

A fictional princess in an old Egyptian movie they loved.

Jiek_Fafn posted...

My now wife ran into that. She wouldnt move into my super cool piece of shit bachelor pad and instead of moving her in with me, we got a new place together. I was forced to get rid of all of my hand me down mismatched furniture and we bought new stuff. I think the only thing I brought was my tv/stand.

Lol I had my husband get rid of all his old crappy furniture too. All the design and decor of the house is mine. He doesnt care so its fine.

Thats a plus for me so long as he gives me free reign if we move together. My ex fianc had a fully furnished house and I always felt like a guest. Everything had to be in his taste.

Maybe if youre vaccinated but its still deadly for unvaccinated. Hospitalizations and deaths are lower only because a lot of people are vaccinated and boosted. I know a few nurses and the hospitals are overloaded with primarily unvaccinated people.