Lurker > MrDrMan

I'm not really trying to.

But to expound on this, notice how many "adults" are quick to belittle and bully everyone they see? They gang up on others for no reason other than social status. Look at this board. Then even when they're being helpful, they still find a way to be harsh and hurtful while telling you to fuck off.

It's like my friend said: most adults never escape the high school phase; they just become more subtle about being obnoxious. I really don't think the difference between children and adults is as large as people would have you believe. At best, adults practice more situational restraint, but there's no reason to assume good intentions by default when they do that. Besides, even if they are being sincere in those cases, it doesn't make them a good person. At least children/teenagers are honest and direct, which I believe society needs more of for non-nefarious reasons. Hint: I think honesty would save a lot of heartache and awkwardness in the long-term if people could get past pussyfooting in the short-term for the sake of their own emotional comfort.

I do; I just don't care. Well, not inherently.

Maybe. An alternative scenario that's equally viable is for people to learn to grow a thicker skin and stop taking everything so seriously. This is another example of how adults aren't much different than children; and you want to call me arrogant?

Anyway, yes. Objectively, I have a better handle on an alcoholic's situation than they do. Why? Alcohol wrecks your psychology. My friends' feelings aren't as important to me as their livelihoods; I will purposefully overstep boundaries in that case, even if they've erected them. I'm not going to watch them just kill themselves physically and mentally for an unnecessary chemical fix.

Like, do you even know what the fuck alcoholism entails? People's entire lives, including their connection with friends and family members, are frequently destroyed because of this. Fuck boundaries, fuck social norms, and fuck feelings. I'm not watching that.

If your friend has a history of abuse and toxic behavior from past partners then why on earth would you keep your mouth shut if you see another red flag in the next guy? Should TC have kept quiet and just watch his friend waltz into a bad situation without saying anything? What if that was your mom or your sister?

It shouldn't if it comes from a genuine concern, especially from a friend. People just think they have too figured out. It's a conceited trait for sure if you ask me.

Real friends keep each other grounded. Being an adult doesn't mean people can't freely give you advice and suggestions. You make it sound like you're too good for that sorta thing, even take it as an insult to receive those kinda things.

I could not disagree more. Happiness be damned, it is not the job of a friend to be blindly supportive and bobble-head along.

Does TC know the guy in question? No. But, divorced from any other context, he's absolutely right: a guy pushing to move in together after one month and a single date is a CRIMSON flag. As in, approaching actual "this could damn well be a legit dangerous situation" territory. Is it POSSIBLE that it's legit and will work out? Sure; there are a nonzero number of people who move in very quickly, get married after two months, and have very happy lives. They are grossly outnumbered by those who try that and end up in very, very shitty straits.

If I had a friend come home from a bar one night, and they told me "Guess what! There was this guy there who's a talent agent at Disney! And he says I'd I get him $1500, he can swing a role for me in Season 2 of Loki, that he thinks I'd be perfect for!" Do I, as their friend:

a) Say "Oh my God, good for you! I hope it works out!"

or

b) Say "This is sketchy as hell, and he's probably scamming you hard, or worse. Be careful."

It's not about infantilizing them, or sexism, or anything else. Friends have each other's backs; and if one is doing something dangerous or reckless, there's no reason we should have to wait for them to crash and burn before saying something.

I don't think I've said that.

Are they? Could've fooled me.

When I have an objectively clearer panorama of an alcoholic's situation than they do, then yes. Emotions don't change reality. It's not arrogance; it's insecurity to be offended by this.

Real friends throw opinions at each other without asking all the time. Do you have nothing but yesmen as your friend?

I mean it was a little intrusive but i dont think it was too far out of line. I didn't tell her "remember your abusive ex?!?" or anything of that nature.

She was talking about how she liked how he was so spontaneous and i just told her that its not a good spontaneous and to be careful. She asked me why and i said the thing about flowers should be the spontaneous you look for and that he's being overly impulsive and you dont really know him.

I brought up her past in this topic just for some context.

I don't agree. However, from a pragmatic standpoint, she's unlikely to listen if it's unsolicited, so at the very least the desired effect would not be had.

But by your logic, no one should give unsolicited advice for people that are, say, alcoholics or druggies. Guess what? I'm doing it, and if they get pissed, they just do.

I don't know why Cell is getting so many damn votes. He's just a total ripoff of Frieza and a far less interesting one. DBZ had the same problem that Rocky had going from 3 to 4.

"Here's the biggest, strongest, meanest opponent you'll ever have."
"Hi. I'm even stronger than the last guy."

At least Buu was different.

Safari is only available if you have a Mac or iPhone

and Opera/Vivaldi are just Chromium forks now

I don't see the problem.

Can you explain? The designs are almost exactly what they were in the old show.

Wings suck in general. Too little for all that work.

wingstop is garbage too

I dont like bottled/storebought aauce just basically because its ketchup. So much sugar. Homemade bbq sauce, to accent the chicken recipe, is good. Vinegar-pepper sauce especially

I can see falling in love with someone who can't due to some sort of physical limitations. It happens

No that would be literal garbage.

Someone tell aussies about cinnamon sugar toast if they want to eat bread and sugar.

Dude, Id never pay $1000 for a phone. I paid $300 for my last one and I am perfectly happy with it. Pay $15 a month for Mint Mobile and happy there too.

Because we dont want a hard credit inquiry on our credit report? For a few hundred bucks, I dont want my credit score touched.

Some of us like to have unlocked phones so we can switch providers whenever. I have a cheap pay as you go plan because why pay more?

That's....not what happend. Come on, you can't be criticizing R's and 45 for mis-information and then saying shit like this.

Why would they want a bloated movie like Endgame?