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Poll of the Day   »   ATTN People who still think I live in a pile of shit.
bachewychomp
11/10/2025
04:37 PM
#18
What did you put that $10k into? Are they personal possessions you can take with you? Because otherwise, investing $10k into a home you don't own is a worse use of your money than had you just spent more to rent something a little nicer. Even as far as personal possessions go, I know obviously the dishwasher is a small part of that investment, but there's a good chance you're going to find that isn't much use to take with you since most places have a built-in dishwasher.

Dikitain posted...
Some people prefer to save their money rather then spend flaunt it.

That's fine if you have big plans for that money, but Judg seems to be someone who doesn't like to do anything besides work, yet saves up as if he wants to retire from work ASAP. Make it make sense

Plus as adjl suggested yeah I don't think that like having in-unit laundry is some grand luxury, even if you technically can get away with it if you want to pinch every last penny
Poll of the Day   »   ATTN People who still think I live in a pile of shit.
bachewychomp
11/10/2025
03:25 PM
#13
I don't understand making like $200k a year and you choose to live in a place that we've learned has no washer or dryer, no dishwasher, and now as we see, looks like one of those pseudo-attic loft rooms. Even if you're not living among literal shit anymore it seems like you're still afraid to have a nice space for yourself
Poll of the Day   »   I feel sorry for artists like this cuz people love to call their style AI
bachewychomp
11/08/2025
04:39 PM
#46
"Well AI could be used to eliminate cars maybe don't ask me how, just trust me bro" yeah I guess nobody can win against your complete hypotheticals, so let's actually talk about what it is now, and what we can glean from similar cases.

Technological advancements don't happen in a vacuum. We don't live in your fantasy world where our most brilliant minds are constantly grinding away on the next big thing out of benevolence for the future of humanity. These things happen because someone deems them worthy enough of investing money into so that the actual smart folks can be enticed to work on them. But investments from capital come with the caveat of needing to meet certain goals and demands of capital.

This isn't people working on a cancer cure funded by grant money, they are being funded by venture capital and corporations. We have so many examples of how and why capital doesn't often do what's actually in the best interest of humanity or the working class, but it's the anti-AI people who aren't learning from the past? I mean your example sounds like you are saying you think we could have been colonizing other planets right now, it's so unserious. Sounds like you've just blindly swallowed the futurist cope
Poll of the Day   »   I feel sorry for artists like this cuz people love to call their style AI
bachewychomp
11/08/2025
11:37 AM
#42
How many times are you going to make some version of this topic?

We're well past the point with AI on debating the merits of using it and individual things it can do. You gotta look at the big picture. There's more than enough body of evidence around what it actually does, what the cost/side effects of it are, who's financing it and what they stand to gain from it that anyone who doesn't stand to get super rich off of it should be very against it.

I'm not saying you must absolutely never use it, but when you tout some minor successful use case or how an anti-AI person made a mistake one time it just makes you sound like you're on the pro-AI side. There's not really any issue in the world that has one side on the issue who is absolutely correct and never does anything wrong, so when you point out those minor flaws you're just doing the dirty work of the rich and powerful people who want you to think the debate is even close
Poll of the Day   »   So there's a game store ~2 miles away from me. Think of it as a social club.
bachewychomp
11/02/2025
05:04 PM
#2
I never really got into that scene but I know of plenty of meetups around me that are more like "open" board game nights where people are encouraged to bring a bunch of games they can choose from the night of. I'd suggest something like that, and not limited to TCGs, unless this shop is really pushy about wanting to sell their products to whoever they host. I guess I don't know what the etiquette for that is cause when I've gone to board game meetups they're at bars and stuff

Poll of the Day   »   My opinion on AI search engines is kinda turning around.
bachewychomp
10/31/2025
04:10 PM
#21
People might be a bit overzealous in saying stuff like AI is always wrong or has no uses at all, but they're right to unconditionally oppose it in spirit. Defenders will say something like "it's just another tool" but we've seen enough throughout history to know that none of these productivity benefits will be passed on to the worker (if anything they've only made their lives worse). That's even if you can call it a tool or say it benefits productivity, which is dubious at best. Most tools have a clearly defined use case and are self-sufficient, neither of which is true of AI
Poll of the Day   »   What's a fad you miss?
bachewychomp
10/31/2025
03:08 PM
#41
If I listened wired and wireless side by side it's possible I'd be able to hear the difference, but I'm not someone who has used BT headphones and instantly been like holy shit this is awful. I think most consumers are probably like me. But again, my use case is one where I'd favor not having a wire anyway, as my phone is one that still has the jack but I don't use it.

Phones being smaller is definitely something that I miss. I just can't get behind the idea of actually watching stuff on a little 6ish inch screen. Not worth it to me for how these things are barely pocketable anymore. Some people say it's not just about the screen size but being able to fit a bigger battery, which is true, but I wonder if the battery life is really even better since it'd also be offset by having to run a bigger screen and more powerful hardware. Personally I haven't really noticed any obvious improvement in how long the battery lasts in ~15 years of owning smartphones.
Poll of the Day   »   What's a fad you miss?
bachewychomp
10/31/2025
01:41 PM
#33
While I don't doubt that's true, that sounds like one of those nonsensical audiophile complaints. Your average consumer isn't going to be able to tell the difference between wireless and wired headphones coming from a smartphone. If you care enough about that quality difference you're going to be using the kind of equipment that will always have a jack output anyway
Poll of the Day   »   What's a fad you miss?
bachewychomp
10/31/2025
12:54 PM
#29
IDK that the sound quality thing is entirely true. My understanding is a phone/other device would need to amplify the sound before it goes out the headphone jack, whereas wireless would obviously have the amplification withing the headphones. So if you have BT cans with good amplification then you aren't dependent on the amplification quality of the audio source device. But I heard that phones with jacks generally made the amplification worse over time, so in a sense the switch to BT was just solving a problem of their own making.

I don't really mind wireless headphones because if I'm using them instead of speakers it's generally because I'm moving around, so not having a wire in the way is nice. Latency also doesn't matter for listening to music, which is my main use case. I could see how that's a problem with videos and video games, but how often are you doing those things on a device that has no jack?
Poll of the Day   »   What's a fad you miss?
bachewychomp
10/31/2025
12:20 PM
#19
This reads like an r/AskReddit thread with people just naming stuff that are perceived signs of societal decline. Guys, there aren't upvotes to farm on GameFAQs.

I can't really think of any real answers myself though. Uhh, I kinda miss silly words like "pwn". But I don't know if that's a fad, it's more like missing slang of your generation
Poll of the Day   »   I'm frequently cold. It's currently 62F in the apartment right now. Suggestions?
bachewychomp
10/31/2025
11:55 AM
#32
Not saying this rules out medical conditions entirely, but anyone would be cold in a 62 degree apartment
Poll of the Day   »   My opinion on AI search engines is kinda turning around.
bachewychomp
10/30/2025
05:08 PM
#4
Search engines are the ones making search worse. The reason so many articles got shitty in the first place was because of the rat race to game SEO algorithms with fluff keywords. Now with these AI results, it's depriving websites of clicks (even if the sites were annoying to try to read through), which is eventually going to kill legitimate websites. It's going to be a new rate race to spin up cheap bullshit content farms that lean heavily on AI, and it's going to spit out less and less reliable results as it basically plays a game of telephone with itself.
Poll of the Day   »   How's life?
bachewychomp
10/30/2025
12:03 PM
#4
Work is bad. Got laid off nine months ago and can barely even land an interview in this AI bullshit world anymore.

Forget about dating life, just socializing at all is really difficult anymore. I've tried some things like going to meetups and joining sports leagues but it seems like everyone just goes about their business when the event/game ends. Nobody actually wants to make friends, or at least they don't put in the effort to do so. Whenever there is talk of doing stuff outside of the event it usually falls through pretty quickly. I feel like we've turned into a flake culture where people will drop any social obligations at the very smallest inconveniences or feelings of doubt.

All this puts me in an uncomfortable headspace where it's been hard for me to enjoy things like gaming. I still play, but it's pretty rare to get engrossed and at times it just feels like a chore. I guess that's how I end up doing things like posting on GameFAQs in 2025. Sometimes I do "productive" things instead like work on a programming project, but I hate this feeling that in my career (software engineering), just showing up and doing a good job at your position is never enough to sustain that career alone.
Poll of the Day   »   post a picture of yourself topic
bachewychomp
10/28/2025
10:34 PM
#37
Judgmenl posted...
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/0/0a15d7a6.jpg

Very rare for me to post pictures of myself online.

Damn you couldn't go more for the stereotypical "bedroom hacker" look if you tried
Poll of the Day   »   The end of the nightly posts because mods now claim cosplay isn't allowed at all
bachewychomp
10/27/2025
02:55 PM
#26
I mean, we can debate the merits and the logic behind the hornyposting rule, but those topics were obviously skirting a horny line at best.

Personally I don't really get why they did it, but I'm not sad about it either. Maybe I'm in the minority but I've never been interested in finding out what's making people horny, what they're cranking it to, how their sex life is going, etc. I know how to find videos and pics of sexy stuff on my own, I don't need anyone else's contributions. Whenever I say this people act like I'm some anti-sex puritan freak. No, I just think if you wanna be horny with other people online, go comment on a porn video or something. Go to a fetish subreddit or some sex forum.

Poll of the Day   »   post a picture of yourself topic
bachewychomp
10/27/2025
12:46 PM
#25
I remember one time when I posted a pic of myself here, someone saved it and posted it a while later pretending it was himself

That's also probably the last time I posted a pic of myself here
Poll of the Day   »   There's a lot of really pretty, and kind single women in Canada. Yall should go
bachewychomp
10/27/2025
12:30 AM
#49
Oh wait I totally missed the part where you said flat out you started dating in July. That's a ridiculously small amount of time to be talking about marriage for any couple, let alone one that doesn't even live in the same country lmao
Poll of the Day   »   There's a lot of really pretty, and kind single women in Canada. Yall should go
bachewychomp
10/26/2025
11:52 PM
#46
Call me crazy but if you're talking about marrying someone you probably shouldn't be insecure about how much time you've spent together
Poll of the Day   »   There's a lot of really pretty, and kind single women in Canada. Yall should go
bachewychomp
10/26/2025
03:40 PM
#37
Stimpy posted...
Gfaqs is the only place on earth where you can make a post trying to help other nerds who might be lonely, and people get pissy about it. Never change yall.
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"Simply get a girlfriend in another country" is insane advice, and "Canadian women are really nice and love nerds" is an insane generalization
Poll of the Day   »   There's a lot of really pretty, and kind single women in Canada. Yall should go
bachewychomp
10/24/2025
06:56 PM
#12
The whole ongoing arc with his girlfriend who lives in Canada is definitely weird. I mean for starters that's like a common joke about having a made-up gf. He's also heavily implied that the relationship started out being long-distance, which is further suspicious and also a little pathetic. I think this alleged kindness towards dorky/nerdy guys probably just says more about the kind of person who would start an internet relationship than being Canadian.

That's if any of this is even real, which I doubt. I don't know why people like to lie about such boring stuff, but I've seen enough of it in my years on the internet that I know they do
Poll of the Day   »   Remember like 15 years ago when Clench did nothing but buy Chicken and Eggs?
bachewychomp
10/24/2025
03:34 PM
#13
The chicken and eggs thing is more about bulking muscle than just eating "healthy" in general (although that's kind of a loaded term that can mean a lot of things). But I also get it now. I miss when I started lifting in college and I was like 115 lbs so all those noob gains came really easy by basically just eating like I already did and adding a protein shake on a workout day.

That doesn't really work for me anymore. But even though I still work out, I feel like my appetite isn't much different at 165 lbs now than it was at 135. I find it hard to eat a lot of meat or other protein like that. If anything my lactose tolerance is probably worse because I always hear that is something that generally decreases with time for most people. There are varying schools of thought about how much protein you should eat, but let's say for me it's 150 grams. That's 50 per meal if you eat 3 meals a day, and common meals people make (or that you can get at restaurants) are not near that. Okay maybe say 50 can come from snacks and a protein shake, but the remaining 100 still works out to 33. That's not too crazy for a lunch and dinner, but lunch and dinner need to pick up the slack from breakfast because most breakfast foods (i.e. oats, bread) are a negligible amount of protein. Yes, eggs have protein, but I think it's like 6-7 g per egg, so I can see where guys eating a half dozen at a time comes from. I just cannot eat that many eggs. There is sausage too but sausage is pretty processed and not good for you. I do Greek yogurt sometimes but if I had to guess I'd top out at around 20 g worth.

Weren't you saying you were slightly overweight not that long ago? Now you sound pretty skinny, considering you have an inchish of height on me and I have 20 lbs on you. But yeah eating 1000 calories a day I'm not surprised you would lose weight so drastically.
Poll of the Day   »   Why does *almost* everyone REEK of MARIJUANA?
bachewychomp
10/22/2025
08:53 PM
#43
I don't think someone who watches three movies a day (even if it's just for this month) is really in any place to judge others for being lazy
Poll of the Day   »   Anyone have any thoughts on how to sell a small video game collection?
bachewychomp
10/22/2025
04:42 PM
#12
I sold a good number of games last year, and I won't lie, the productivity shame/depression/need to feel rid of them were factors. I can't say I really regret it yet, but maybe that's just me still not getting out of that depression. I've definitely regretted getting rid of stuff in the past, but not these recent ones. But I will say I made a point only to sell ones that didn't have a lot of sentimental value, that I figured I had very little chance of playing again, and that I could inexpensively re-acquire again if needed. I've resisted selling my childhood games just out of the sentimentality factor, since I have other means to play them, but I feel like those are ones I'd actually regret if I got rid of them.

I did it almost all on eBay. I didn't have a single person try to scam me and say it didn't work. I would always take a picture of the game running to have as much proof as possible. I don't know if that actually protects you should they try to make a claim against you, but it at least is probably a deterrent. That and the fact that most people are trustworthy folks who just want the game. I have reservations about that, as well as about meeting CL people, but it's pretty unlikely that something bad will happen. Even if you do get screwed over and end up losing a game or two for nothing, you still probably net way more overall than selling those games to a reseller.

I have a spreadsheet with all the stuff I sold and after eBay fees I got 78% of the sale value, which isn't great, but my experience with games resellers (which is ages ago at this point) is you'll probably get like a third, maybe half if you're lucky.
Poll of the Day   »   Anyone have any thoughts on how to sell a small video game collection?
bachewychomp
10/22/2025
12:30 PM
#3
Secondhand store if you just want a safe place to get it over with and don't care about getting the most money you can for it. Craigslist if you want the most amount of money for it and can handle the awkwardness and potential danger (however unlikely) of meeting people in person. eBay if you want a medium where it's pretty safe but they do take a little cut.

If you do CL look into if your local police station has an area where you can do those transactions. Maybe I'm a little bit paranoid but I personally wouldn't go around selling hundreds or thousands of dollars of stuff in person to a stranger. An individual game here and there, sure. Aside from the safety aspect, selling as a lot will also most likely get less value than doing them individually.

Not like you have to choose only one thing. If it was me I'd probably sell the higher value games on eBay individually and then package some lower value ones together as a lot (whether it's to sell on eBay or CL).
Poll of the Day   »   Asmongold v Hasan
bachewychomp
10/17/2025
12:15 PM
#47
These guys wouldn't have influence if people did ignore them though, that's kind of my point. I also don't really know what actual political action you can expect out of knowing about them. Maybe I'm just defeatist but it feels like the left lost the battle over the streaming video/podcast space a decade ago, and they still haven't figured it out since. I think people cling to Hasan because he's like the only person on the left who has any significant reach within the right's "territory" so to speak. But I'm not sure at this point if he isn't just doing more harm than good, and if the left would be better off sticking to what they're good at, which is... I'm not sure, cause we keep losing. We're good at protesting, for however long that will remain legal. That's about it.

But as far as CE/dumb video guys go, it also extends to people who aren't necessarily political, like that Boogie guy
Poll of the Day   »   Asmongold v Hasan
bachewychomp
10/17/2025
11:38 AM
#44
I can't see it anymore but CE really did/does talk about trashy streamers and YouTubers a lot which is another reason they are lame. I assume whoever made this topic is/was a CE person too. I feel almost embarrassed to know who these guys are even just by osmosis that I can't imagine how pathetic someone must be to actually watch them. I know I've basically already said that in this topic but I really cannot emphasize it enough lol

The crazy thing though is with TikTokification/shorts, AI slop, general "brainrot", etc., these guys aren't even the bottom of the barrel
Poll of the Day   »   Asmongold v Hasan
bachewychomp
10/16/2025
03:29 PM
#27
If I had millions of dollars, as they do, I'd definitely fuck right off. If I did want to be in the public eye still then I'd actually make something creative instead of reacting to culture war stuff on a stream. Both guys and their fans are huge fucking losers
Poll of the Day   »   Asmongold v Hasan
bachewychomp
10/16/2025
03:25 PM
#24
I wish I'd stop hearing about any of these streamer people because every time it just seems like it's something so astonishingly horrible or embarrassing you wonder what kind of losers keep watching them
Poll of the Day   »   It's 7:30am on a Sunday. I've been up since 5. What the hell am I supposed to do
bachewychomp
10/12/2025
09:03 PM
#19
I'm not sure "boredom" and "looking for things to do" are all that different. I'm also not sure what you expect us to suggest when you have a long history of creating topics where it seems like you're almost waiting to argue any advice people have. If there's something you'd like to do then chances are you've probably at least thought about it already, and if you're on the fence you'd be better off asking something specific like "hey is anyone here familiar with [X]?"
Poll of the Day   »   What is the best online dating service as of now?
bachewychomp
10/12/2025
08:40 PM
#31
You're right about a lot of that, but the fact it took you several months of going out every night does make it sound hard. Maybe going out that much is ultimately just what "normal" people do, I don't know, but you're trying to say that homebody gamer nerds can easily do it.

For me I think being in a foreign country (or maybe even just a new state here) would actually be kind of liberating. I already don't have friends so at least I'd be somewhere that it's expected I don't. As is, I hate the thought of going out to a bar alone where I feel more like I'm supposed to be there with people. That's why I started going to planned meetups instead, but they just don't happen enough to get the kind of momentum you're describing.
Poll of the Day   »   It's 7:30am on a Sunday. I've been up since 5. What the hell am I supposed to do
bachewychomp
10/12/2025
08:05 PM
#17
Getting out from a controlling environment is definitely something to hang your hat on, but I don't think that when people get out of something like that the learned behaviors and ways of thinking immediately leave with them. It would be armchair psychologist of me to guess these were caused by your environment, but that post makes it sound like you're still needlessly stingy and that you have a toxic need for productivity.

I'm actually kind of like that, but I think my stinginess comes from growing up in a family that never really had much disposable income, not parents trying to control it. Likewise I do feel a bit of pull to be productive, but sometimes I find it fun for its own sake and sometimes I feel like it's because I'm inadequate in some way and need to improve. Why do you do it? If you strictly find it fun, surely there shouldn't be a problem. It's not like you can run out of things to make.

"Boredom" in the modern world is a peculiar thing. We have no shortage of options for boredom in the sense of "filling time", but people seem to complain of being bored all the time. I think the boredom people are talking about is an unmet need that they don't know how to fulfill... so yeah, I don't think people are unreasonable for seeing depression from this topic.
Poll of the Day   »   What is the best online dating service as of now?
bachewychomp
10/12/2025
01:47 PM
#28
Also I'm a software engineer, or I guess "was" for the time being, which is already not a very good career for your social life, but especially with the last five years being remote work. It's so bad that I've often thought about doing work that would pay a fraction of the amount just to be able to spend some time around other people regularly. That might become reality soon since I can't seem to find a software job anyway after getting laid off, although I'm currently waiting to hear back on a rare promising lead.

Getting kinda off topic now and seems like TC abandoned this, so I don't wanna be the one guy moping about his lonely life lol. Just saying that as one more example of a thing (lively work environment) that maybe people take for granted and assume everyone has. And of course yes I know that those jobs probably suck in their own way.
Poll of the Day   »   What is the best online dating service as of now?
bachewychomp
10/12/2025
01:36 PM
#27
I spend an unhealthy amount of time at home/in front of a screen, but I do other stuff, it's just not always the kind of stuff people are photographing. I play rec sports but people don't take pics during that. I go to the gym but I'm not gonna become a gym selfies guy cause everyone says that's unattractive anyway (and I'm not that fit). During the summer I did make a point of doing something outdoors at least once a week (hike, bike, paddleboard), which is my only reliable avenue of getting a halfway decent photo. Bars and such... I wouldn't mind going to more, but I need some more friends cause I don't like going alone. So my problem might be either lack of variety in pics (they're pretty much all outdoors) or that women can tell that I do almost everything alone.

I think you nailed it though, the key is living a richer life. By richer I don't mean monetarily, but one with cool hobbies and activities, a good social life. The problem is that I think nobody really knows how to obtain that anymore. Making friends is hard, things cost money to do, etc, so dating app discussions tend to focus on the wrong things and people making assumptions that what is easy for them should be easy for anyone.
Poll of the Day   »   What is the best online dating service as of now?
bachewychomp
10/12/2025
12:47 PM
#25
What "day to day" stuff? That only works if you have interesting hobbies. You think potential dates want to see pictures of you at work, or the grocery store, or sitting in front of a video game?

How interesting are your lives that it's not hard to just naturally get interesting pictures? If I do even one photo-worthy thing a week then I feel like I did pretty well. But even then, taking the picture usually feels pretty forced, and not every pic you take ends up looking good.
Poll of the Day   »   It's 7:30am on a Sunday. I've been up since 5. What the hell am I supposed to do
bachewychomp
10/12/2025
12:31 PM
#12
Judgmenl posted...
Just scratching my head on what I'm supposed to be doing with my free time as that's been an issue that has been raised more than once over the past few weeks.

Past few weeks? This is like what every topic you've ever made here has been about lol

I can't tell you what you want to do, but I do know this much: Get more sleep and don't do work just because you're bored
Poll of the Day   »   What is the best online dating service as of now?
bachewychomp
10/10/2025
03:44 PM
#22
Though I will say, just take a hike somewhere and try to get a photo. It doesn't have to be a long or remote or difficult hike. Even if the photo doesn't pan out at least you spent some time outside and got exercise. You can take a selfie, just hold the phone in a way that doesn't make it super obvious, and think about cropping it later. Or if you encounter someone else on the hike (at a good stopping point), ask them to take a picture of you. They'll almost always be happy to oblige in my experience, and you can never get too much practice with being comfortable talking to strangers.
Poll of the Day   »   What is the best online dating service as of now?
bachewychomp
10/10/2025
03:32 PM
#21
I think it's less about dragging someone else along and more that you should get to the point where you're just out doing things often enough that having friends take pictures of your activities is normal. At least that's the impression I get based on what the women's profiles I swipe on are like, but maybe they are faking it too and wouldn't otherwise take that many pictures. Or maybe they don't expect men to have the same kind of profiles they do; I have no way of knowing since I'm not them and don't get much chance to talk to them.

All I know is... I look way less cool and social than the people in my dating pool on these apps, so my best guess is that's why I'm failing at them. And if that's the problem, then your options are to either be cooler and more social, or find another app for loners like you. But again, I've found the apps supposedly geared towards introverts/nerds are pretty unserious. I'm not sure I even want to continue down the path of being a loner nerd type anyway, but I guess my advice isn't very helpful for anyone who is happy with that lifestyle (no judgment if you are).

I'm just going to reiterate my opinion that dating apps are no longer something for people who "traditional" dating methods have left behind; they're now an extra tool for the folks who were already relatively successful.
Poll of the Day   »   What is the best online dating service as of now?
bachewychomp
10/10/2025
12:15 PM
#19
dj1200 posted...
just take more pictures of yourself. Not that hard.

dj1200 posted...
So did you take some more pics?

"Just" take pictures how and where? Taking a bunch of selfies at home is the worst thing you can do. It's (usually) an ugly backdrop that makes it look like you don't get out, and people want to see variety in photos. Selfies should be avoided in general, which is where I admittedly struggle, but a selfie outdoors or something will almost always look way better than an in-home one.

adjl posted...
Do all 12 pictures have to be of you? Or can you include a smattering of things you found interesting enough to photograph? The latter makes sense, because it means you're sharing your interests in a more relatable manner than just rattling off a list, essentially saying "this is the sort of thing I would like to share with a partner." The former does indeed sound silly and redundant and promotes what would effectively be posing for hobbies that may or may not be real.

How is it sillier for someone to pose for hobbies than it is to post photos they're not in? You don't even know if they took that photo or just pulled it off the internet. I generally assume people are way less well-traveled and outdoorsy as their dating apps make them appear, but at least I know they're willing enough to take a vacation or go on a hike if they got that photo where they're in it. I think you can get away with maybe one photo where it's not you, especially if it's something like a pet, but I personally don't care for photos without the person.
Poll of the Day   »   What is the best online dating service as of now?
bachewychomp
10/09/2025
07:31 PM
#6
Salrite posted...
Demanding 12 pictures just to create a profile is absurd. Who needs that many? Just a selfie for a close up reference and a full body shot is all anyone needs. I'm someone who despises social media and obligatory pictures just for the sake of taking pictures, so demanding more directly counters my personality.

I don't know if it was always like this, but Hinge has been 6 pictures since whenever I started using it. I thought you were just exaggerating saying it was 12. Because honestly I do find even 6 good pictures to be hard to get together, especially if I had just changed my hairstyle or something and didn't want to use a dated one. Yeah I also hate Instagram culture of taking pics of everything, but these are primarily pic-based apps so you gotta do it.

Salrite posted...
I understand a lot of people DO judge by quantity (which is absolutely insane), but I did tend to find the right kind of people with what I did use on PoF. In fact, I would actively seek people with less pictures on their profiles because I could tell they were less likely to be full of themselves. Gatekeeping by image count is just weird and pretty suspicious.

I don't think people are really counting your images, but they want to see you doing things that make you look fun to be around, which is harder the fewer you have. If you're really patient then you might find someone else who is more introverted, but I wouldn't count on it, since these apps seem to put your visibility really low pretty quickly if you aren't popular on them. There are some apps that purport to be more oriented towards introverts, but I count those among ones I've tried that don't really work right.

Salrite posted...
Also, if I got out more and got more hobbies, I wouldn't be using dating apps, would I?

This is a reason to get more hobbies lol, you say that like happening upon a date without using an app would be a bad thing

Blue_Thunder posted...
Personally I'd just take multiple pics at slightly different angles, upload those and leave it at that lol

Definitely do not do that, it's extremely paper thin and everyone can tell that you just took all those pics together

The days of online dating being only for introverts who want to fill out personality-matched quizzes are over. It's a superficial game about swiping and the hot normies are all using it too, so like it or not, that's what you're up against
Poll of the Day   »   What is the best online dating service as of now?
bachewychomp
10/09/2025
03:29 PM
#3
I can only speak to my experience in "vanilla" man-seeking-women dating, but there's a good chance of you being the same, and I'll say that every app I've tried outside of the big three (Tinder, Bumble and Hinge) is complete crap. Don't be fooled if you see one that has a high rating on the app store, it probably sucks too.

That's not to say I've really had success with the big three either. Honestly the odds are just not in our favor if you can believe the speculated gender ratios (anywhere from 2:1 to 4:1 men) are true. I wish I knew what advice to give but if I did then I'd be better at them myself. I don't want to say the cliche "just get some attractive hobbies and work on your appearance" cause I haven't noticed any meaningful change in results on the apps doing that. But you can do those things for their own sake anyway. If you don't have enough pictures to fill out a Hinge profile then you probably need to get out more. It does mostly come down to your pictures, and people want to know not just how you look, but if you look like you have fun.
Poll of the Day   »   Remember CE?
bachewychomp
10/09/2025
12:38 PM
#30
Damn_Underscore posted...
Youre saying that like its a bad thing. CE is one of the most toxic communities on this websight, and if you only posted there you wouldnt even realize it.

Exactly, if we're getting posters who got banned from one of the most toxic communities, then there's probably a good chance they're annoying. That Pineapple guy who I put on ignore comes to mind, and I recall someone here saying that everyone on CE was making fun of him and celebrating his absence
Poll of the Day   »   Remember CE?
bachewychomp
10/08/2025
10:27 PM
#20
Let me guess, another person who must have gotten banned from CE and decided to come here

BADoglick posted...
The reddit of gamefaqs

Lmao
Poll of the Day   »   Honestly there doesn't need to be any new media
bachewychomp
10/04/2025
08:30 PM
#10
GanglyKhan posted...
I highly disagree with that part. Anyone can go turn off their devices, take a walk, and go join some rec league or a club nearby.

Yeah but I think the fact that fewer people are not turning off their devices and doing alternatives means in turn that those alternatives are less enticing, since social events depend on people. It's kind of like you were saying about how if we all stopped buying media at once it would make a difference. Yeah and if we were all pouring into the social spaces at once they'd feel more alive and fun too, but that isn't gonna happen as long as people feel they're less worth going to. And social spaces might have enough numbers to sustain them now, but I worry that will get worse with future generations.
Poll of the Day   »   Honestly there doesn't need to be any new media
bachewychomp
10/04/2025
05:15 PM
#6
SunWuKung420 posted...
Writers and artists should never stop creating. This topic is dumb.

GanglyKhan posted...
This is the genuine crisis facing the world right now, and I mean that sincerely. If people all suddenly realized that and followed through with never buying any new media, entire economic systems would crash over night, it would be absolutely bedlam.

The digital world has reduced costs and barriers to entry on both the side of the creators and the consumers. The result is it's been hard to parse which entertainment is actually worthwhile and has artistic merit, but there's so much of it and we have screens everywhere that we've been conditioned to consume what we can anyway. People seem to generally think of consumerism as physical goods, but the modern media landscape is consumerist too. People also escape those feelings because it's inexpensive, but we pay the cost in other ways. It's made us docile and complacent. You are right that the corporations responsible would notice if we stopped, but it's hard for people to do that, because we now live in a world where people want that escape, and the better alternatives are dwindling.
Poll of the Day   »   Honestly there doesn't need to be any new media
bachewychomp
10/04/2025
04:48 PM
#4
I go back and forth on how I feel about this. The nice thing about old media is it's usually more inexpensive and you have a better idea of if it's been culturally established as good. The nice thing about new stuff is it can be fun to be part of the zeitgeist when everyone is discussing it. I'd rather just evaluate media on its own merit but in an increasingly isolated world where it feels like people are defined more and more by their media consumption, it feels like there's a bit of pressure to be "in the know" on pop culture so you can have something to relate to people with. Though that's one of those things when I say it I bet everyone is gonna be like nah you're just weird, it's not a big deal what you watch or play.
Poll of the Day   »   How many hours do you game each week?
bachewychomp
10/04/2025
12:00 PM
#34
Glob posted...
Im not saying gaming is the key to happiness. Im just saying that a change in your hobbies isnt necessarily depression.

I know, I was agreeing with you lol
Poll of the Day   »   I've been getting a bunch of coupons recently from Grubhub BUT
bachewychomp
10/03/2025
03:49 PM
#2
I haven't even bothered when they send me free coupons, since I hate making accounts/signing up for shit. It's insane to me that people pay for this, and in some cases do it often, given how expensive takeout already is. I also hate how they ruin the restaurant experience for people who don't use them, because you might go in to one and think it's not busy, but then you end up caught behind a bunch of mobile orders for 20 minutes
Poll of the Day   »   I spent this week moving out.
bachewychomp
10/02/2025
10:12 PM
#3
I haven't seen you in a while and was wondering if you were making some moves in your life. Nice job getting your own place! Well sort of, hope that it isn't awkward living attached to someone's home.

Next step, if you're not already doing it, is stop letting your employer overwork you
Poll of the Day   »   How many hours do you game each week?
bachewychomp
10/02/2025
05:25 PM
#31
I get what you're saying, but "it's not like I'm passing up opportunities to go out" is something I told myself a lot (and it was generally true) until I eventually realized that being a passive but willing participant like that wasn't really enough alone to nurture social relationships. Now that I'm in a position where I feel like I have a massive social debt to make up, I'm not sure gaming is the best activity to be doing.

I'm definitely guilty of not forgiving myself enough if I screw up. Like I think making an intention to attend a meetup event or whatever is a better use of my time than gaming, but if I end up failing to go, I'll probably tend to ruminate too much and (semi-subconsciously) punish myself by not gaming. I see how that can be counter productive, as the negative thing isn't really the reason for failing to do the positive thing. Well maybe it would be for some people. For me it's less "I'd rather be gaming" and more "doing the other thing was scary, so I backed away from it".

In conclusion, you don't all need to hear about my troubles... there's no right or wrong amount of games to play if you're happy with yourself

Poll of the Day   »   How many hours do you game each week?
bachewychomp
09/29/2025
11:28 AM
#26
Glob posted...
It could be depression. Or it could be growth. Its not always a negative to move on from something.

I honestly think there are very few happy lives that involve dozens upon dozens of hours of gaming per week as a regular habit. I will also say that just cutting back on games alone doesn't make you happy, and that I probably should be finding more joy in them than I do right now.

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